I know what you mean I am going to my brothers for our family thanksgiving. I don't want to go I want to stay in bed all day. But I have to put on a good face for the kids, plus it's my nephews bithday today so we are having a party too.

I was going to move to Australia, leave d with X, when finally everything came to light, and I knew I wasn't crazy!

(((hugs)))

I feel exactly the same way. I can't wait for today to end.

So sorry, I know this is hard. can you get away for a minute alone and just say a prayer or do some deep breathing. Anyway I am not in the situation now but will be in that later today.I will keep you in my prayers. Just remember breath.

When I started and left it was the holidays last year. It was hard, so hard, but the family help me. They love you no matter what. Be strong and se there with them. If the pressure is too much, take a little walk and come back. They will understand. Also hug everyone if you feel scared. It will bring a tear, but it will help. Again be strong as this time is one of the toughest.

i will try to breath I think I am going for a walk on the beach this morning!

MAybe then I will be in a better state I just hate answering all the questions
all the sad looks.

Its not fair

My very best advice is to just Do what you need to to survive this day. Carry a box of kleenex.

If you have to excuse yourself to go and cry, just Do it.

This is a time that you really need to be as self centered as possible. You are Surviving!!! People NEED to Understand that.

Bless Your Heart.

I am alone for the first time in 28 years at Thanksgiving. My stbx took our two younger kids to see their older sister in N.C. and my other daughter is with her in-laws. Yeah, I want to hide for the day too. Stay strong for your kids and hopefully time will go by quickly. I am hoping for that. Happy Thanksgiving.

how about just thanks giving it doesnt have to be happy

thanks i will do my best

sorry freetofly, I put for you to stay strong for your kids, then realized you don't have any. then stay strong for yourself and your family will be strong for you. Lesn on them as much as you need too.

You don't have to answer all the question and relive the worst parts of whats going on right now just so that someone you see a couple of times a year can be in the loop.

I'm telling people that hey peoples feeling change and they move on. We are doing what we feel is best.

Giving them details like, "I caught her with this person" or "he/she did this" turns you into a real life soap opera and then the questions NEVER stop. Everyone wants to hear the latest installment of the freetofly show.

I feel your pain, we are all trying to be strong.

I agree don't answer anything you don't want to. Pretend you didn't hear the question or keep answers short. If someone asks me why I am getting a divorce, I just say he is an addict. It is the truth and it shuts them up quick.
Suggest playing a board game live Trival Pursuit that keeps the topics of conversation light and takes the focus off you. It even might help get your mind off of it.
My family likes to do all the girls against the boys, it creates a fun rivalry.

I'll tell you what. When I think I'm going into hard situations, like today, I try to use humor as much as possible. When we go around the table tonight saying what we are thankful for (which we always have to do- tradition you know) I'm going to say "I'm not thankful for much. My H left me, my cat is sick, my back hurts from raking up all the leaves etc. etc. I'm like a bad country song." I know I'll get a lot of crazy looks but some laughs too. I'll finish by saying "I'm thankful for being here with all of you."

I always find humor lightens up the mood for everyone around me and myself too. If I just put it out there- all the ugly, gross stuff, I get it out of the way and feel so much better.

Good luck to you all and Happy Thanksgiving.

And just Thanksgiving to you, freetofly! :)

wat is thanksgiving?

I'm feeling the same way. This is the first holiday without my wife by my side. And, being with my family doesn't help since they're not so great to be around. I just want this day to be over quickly.