hire a great lawyer.. best of luck.. other than that.. I have no advice for you...

Sorry Robert, I have no idea about that. I don't think revenge is very sweet. I hate that you are hurting.

Talk to a lawyer Fathers have more rights than most people think.

but please only do it if you are wanting what is best for the child and not just revenge. in the end it will be the child that is affected the most

I'm sorry things are not working out the way you hoped.

Hire a good lawyer and a good counselor. You need a strong team with you to help you get past this.

Don't think revenge. Put that energy into getting yourself strong to fight for the child that may be yours.

Robert, would that really be a revenge? Anyway, you cant really stop her from leaving the country as far as I can see. The airlines won't let her onboard if she is 7 months or later, but thats quite some time away, right? Im quite sure nobody can keep her from going back to her country of citizenship during her pregnancy. I'm sorry.

It would be considered child abduction if I do not approve her leaving--I just checked with the INS. They said the Department of State has a division devoted to this. Unfortunately, I can't call them until the morning.

Hi Robert,
I Do know the pain and I am so sorry.
Do not gp down the revenge avenue. It won't change anuthing and you will NOT feel better for it.
It may take time, but the best revenge is you moving on and finding happiness.
Please take care.
Alex

I am sorry, Robert. I do not know you from a hole in the ground but after reading your previous thread I was rooting for you.

Don't think revenge:

1. It would kill whatever chanves you have left

2. You are better than to gove up some of your integrity for something like revenge

Keep us posted... hang in there...

There will no longer be any happiness in my life. It is impossible for me to ever trust a woman again. It took me 20 years to gain enough trust back to let Rita into my life. And, Rita knew about all of that so she would not hurt me. Instead, she used it as a roadmap to hurt me more than anyone could ever do. Nobody who's ever been in my life could have hurt me as bad as she did. Not only did she cheat. Not only did she get pregnant. Not only did she lie. But, she gave my dream of a family to SOMEONE ELSE WHILE SHE WAS MY WIFE. That's the ultimate slap in the face.

It no longer matters to me how much it costs or what it does to me--it simply doesn't matter anymore. I'm waiting for the lawyer to call me back to see what I need to do.

As for the one who said it would ruin any further chances I have, I have no further chances with my wife--she said that very clearly tonight.

Revenge only brings you down to her level. You're better than that.
Hire a lawyer. NOW!!!

Wait, isn't t his the child of her boyfriend? what purpose does it serve to force her to stay in the United States if this child is not yours. As for the child being a citizen, I suspect you are using that as an excuse to keep her here.

Let it go man.

I'm sorry Robert. I've been reading your posts for a while now and I thought you said she was pregnant by another man. I know this doesn't sound good right now but as they say "the truth will set you free." Do you really question whether or not this child is yours? If you do than you need a dna test.

she cant leave if its yours i would call the police and ask or get a lawyer or maybe threaten that to her say ill call the cops n they will watch you n you dont want that do you? n then maybe it will scare her and she'll stay. good luck!!!!

i find when things are done for the right reasons, they usually work out. IMO when things are done out of revenge they backfire. if it is truly your baby, or you think it might be, i wouldn't let her out of the country. Bless you Rob you have been through so much pain. i'm sorry. i hope things start to go a little better. do things for the right reason and you'll be blessed for it.