Your marriage is falling apart, it doesn't have to be your life. See if there is a divorce care group in your area, divorcegroup.com, try to find some way to connect with other people near you as well as here.

It's OK to cry; it's even good for you.

I am so sorry, it is so hard to be all alone and feel so much pain. I know it doesn't help right now to say it will get better, but the pain does become more of a numbness afterwhile.

it'd okay to cry. Mostly I feel numb. I think crying makes your brain swell and then you can think straight. Get it out so you can get past the pain.

keep coming here and talk to us. we know just how your feeling. your going to make it through this. it's a chapter in your life that is ending, and there is a new beginning. you may not have wanted it, but take advantage of it. your going to be ok. hang in there.

There are many of us that have gone through this, and it does hurt like hell. I promise you that the pain will fade and become manageable, just not tonight. I would sit for hours just clicking the channel changer, actually got a blister on my thumb. Go out and take a long walk, go out with a hammer and beat the heck out of a rock. Just don't sit there in the pain, get mad.

It does hurt & we feel shut out from friends & family because they just can't seem to understand the pain of. I've been seperated for only four months & mine would waty till i was asleep & then get up & go out. he was using drugs. When they're out that late, it's one or the other, drugs or an affair. mine's done both. Don't give him till the end of the month. Be strong & tell him to go now. There's more to it than he's telling you. Weather you want it to or not, you will be forced into making your life so it's not falling apart, you'll have no choice. Do you have kids? I have a 15 yr old, & it affects them too.Chin up, be strong & just go day to day for now. I'll be here if you need to talk.
Debbie

I am so sorry and I am right there with you. There are no words to describe this pain and the truth is people cannot understand unless they have been there. I cried for the first time in weeks tonight and the reality might be kicking in.
Don't know what to say. But people here truly understand this sorrow and anguish and we are here for you. Please don't ask me how, but in some way or another we will make it through this and one day there will be light at the end of the tunnel. So sorry.

Saddy, I am SO sorry that you are going through this. I know, it does hurt like hell. You may not think that it will ever get better, as time will "seem" to stand still. BUT, YOU WILL GET THROUGH this!~! Just keep coming here & talking to us. We're here for you! I feel your pain. Believe me, I do.
"Keep Your Chin UP!~!" I'm here when EVER you need or want to talk! (((((((((Saddy)))))))))

Thank you for your understanding. Truly, no one else would understand the pain we are going through. This is third depression wave that hit me.

First was when H started coming home late, I got depressed and then after I confronted him he told me he wanted out. The second one hit much harder than the first. This time after he confirmed he would move out. It was as hard as the second one.

I am expecting the fourth wave to hit the hardest after he moves out. I hope I have anything left in me to keep going when it comes.

Thanks again.

We're here for you- we've all felt or are still feeling it. The only way over it is through it! There is no getting around the pain- better to grieve like you should than to be in denial- or so I'm told!!! Hugs to ya!

I see I posted the wrong address:

www.divorcecare.com

Everyone says it is so helpful. Even my divorced marital therapist went there. I am going to go when the next one near me starts.

Hang in there saddy! We are here for you. I look forward to the day that I spent the entire day with out crying once. Has not happen yet, but the tears are getting to be less and less.

It hurts like hell when you get seperated. I've been in the mental hospital 3 times since he told me he wanted out. My therapist wrote a letter to legal aid and after two tries they agreed to pay for the divorce, just to save me from my own misery. I have to get on with my life and can't seem to get anywhere.

saddy i've been married 32 yrs it really hurts more the longer it goes on best to get out now instead of later

Yes, it hurts like hell... It will get better tho. Tell your family and friends what is going on in your life. You need immediate support near you.