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deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, I know I posted last week about my STBX quitting her job. Just one more thing she has quit.

Well this weekend I find out she is engaged and planning her wedding for this coming July. Heck our Divorce isn't finalized yet, and the other guys STBX hasn't even signed the divorce papers yet.

DAMN talk about putting the horse before the cart.

Yeah my emotions are mixed on this, I am confused that she can even think that way so quickly, but then again the divorce was all her idea because she fell in love with him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
sorry to hear that you had to be involved with such a horrible person. I guess things happen for a reason though, maybe this happened because you were meant to be with someone else that will be there for you and make you happier than she did. that person is out there I am sure, just takes a while to find them sometimes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
On the bright side..if there is one if the 2nd marriage is real and not just some stupid plow to hurt you, doesn't remarriage mean less or no alimony/ maintenance? I am not a lawyer but do they count the new guys income as part of her standard of living? You mentioned before she didn't want to work.

If this helps you keep your shirt after an already rough time it may be a benefit to you.

Talk to an attorney.
Jlhorlando
Jlhorlando
You have to wonder why she is rushing into marriage. You can be assured that the saying " Marry in haste, regret in leisure" will apply here!
deleted_user
deleted_user
PonyBoy,

Think of this way. If she re-marries, then you will not have to support her!

I know that sounds cold but it is looking to the bright side I say!

Make sure the papers say that if she remarries, she does not get another dime from you. So when she does you are done!

Take care of the kids, but you can now start to forget her.
Elyse
Elyse
I'm sorry to hear how fast this is moving for you. But as FOOMTN says, if you are going to move on, then having her out of you financial support obligation is all the better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
well just goes to show you how the thinking is so twisted. i'm convinced after reading so many issues here, after we are dumped and hurt so badly, the time is not always the enemy here, it's our friend, not rush into any relationship. she is just getting married to have someone take care of her, so she does not have to be responsible for herself. it's probably another future divorce seeing as she falls out and in love so quickly.
deleted_user
deleted_user
SNAFU
deleted_user
deleted_user
All I can say is WOW!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this...my x did this too...within a month and a half of our separation, he and his gf were trying to have a baby and his gf was venting to her x's mother about why the divorce was taking so long. She got pregnant in July, divorce was final in August...not entirely sure why they haven't gotten married yet...I'm baffled in fact.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know is this isn't much comfort, but consider these.

Your stbx seems to quit everything so chances are she'll quit this as well. And,

Both stbx's cheated. How long before they cheat on each other?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry, everything about this situation is confussing to me. I still have a hard time trying to make sense of what my stbx wants out of life. Hang in there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Im kind of in the same boat, pony, except my ex keeps getting fired!!!

Anyway, i think its important to step back and look at the situation for what it really is. It is easy to get emotional when the ex is remarrying. I dig that.

But i wouldnt consider marrying the person my ex is now for anything. If you are in the same boat it is probably a "good riddance" situation.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My ex was dragging his feet about signing the divorce papers for months until he met someone that wouldn't date him unless he was divorced. Guess what? He signed so fast it was crazy. But he lied to her and said it was final right away. Great way to start a new relationship! Your stbx is starting her relationship on the wrong foot as well. Try not to feel bad about how quickly she moved on. It is just a good indicator that your divorce is the right course of action for your future happiness.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry to hear that ponyboy. I keep expecting to hear something along the same lines one of these days about my stbx. In the same boat - sucks.
deleted_user
deleted_user
ya know, that always amazes me too! how does someone jump so quick? talk about jumping from the fire into the frying pan!

i can understand your mixed emotions. but...honestly, better that she move on quick to the next one than play that stupid back & forth game for long. at least you know for sure.

not much comfort i know...and i'm sorry for that. also sorry you're going thru this. but again..there is a bright side. she is definitly someone else's problem now!
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