I just wanted to share something my therapist said today. You see, I still have moments of blaming myself for all of this...how could I not when that is all my STBX has done for 3 months. Anyway, so there I was again analyzing my marriage and picking out every little thing I did wrong and my therapist said "this isn't about you...if it was about you he would have stood up at some point and said things were going downhill..no, this is all about him and his issues and his problems and his choice to ignore the vows and commitment you made to each other...and his choice to be with someone else...and his choice to do all of this despite the fact that you have a great son...his choice to hurt the two of you...his choice to up and leave without trying to save your marriage even when you did all you could to save it...no, Left, this is not about what you could have done in the past to make it better but rather what he should not have done to ruin it." I don't know if this will help anyone else, but it sure made me feel better.
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