Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been with David since I was 15-11 years. we have always had problems. Been married 4.5 years, seperated for 5 months 3 years ago, did 9 months of marriage counseling. He lost his job 6 months ago and I found out that he developed a serious drug addiction. He is trying to get clean, but still struggles and lies to me and wont get a job. I know deep down that I can't keep doing this. But I love this man with everything I have and more. We were supposed to have babies and live life together and now it looks more and more everyday that just isn't going to happen. I am new here, so please be gentle, it's not really helpful to hear that I just need to leave because as I am sure you all can appreciate, it's not that easy. I never thought I would be 26 and not have a baby and now I am looking at possibly starting all over. I feel like I will never be ok again and that all my dreams in life have been ruined. All I have ever done is love him, I am not perfect and I have done and said some horrible things, but I love him like no one in his entire life has ever loved him. But when you start dealing with addiction, no of that matters. I feel like I will hurt forever and that I am damaged goods now. I feel like I will never meet someone else in time to do the thing I want more than life-have a baby.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Um, okay.
You say you think you're broken because you don't have a baby at 26?
Um, no.
If the life expectancy were still hovering around 40, then yes, I might agree with you. But your eggs still have a few years left to being life into this world. Don't go rushing to crank out a kid just because you -think- your shot at being a mom is running out.
Which brings up a question; why would you want to be the mom of a kid whose dad is a junkie? On purpose?
Mamma Angel...you need to be happy....not part happy or a lil happy. But REALLY HAPPY!. It exists...and its out there....
Kids shouldn't be a trip to see the folks during the holidays.
Kids shouldn't be remembering to take the trash out twice a week.
They're people. Very tiny people. Who grow up to be big people. But that's a hard place to get them to if they're just a checkbox on a list of things to do someday.
Someday, when you meet the right person, it'll happen. It sounds like your baby clock is just about ready to ring though.But don't let your biology dictate why you get into relationships and what you're truly looking for.
Find out who you are. Be happy by yourself. If and when you do find someone who wants to have kids, make sure it's a safe, healthy enironment to raise them.
You are still a very young person speaking from the other side of 50. You can still meet someone who is worthy of your love and will respect you. It's truly your decision dear. I pray you make the right one.
It seems to me that you are just making excuses for his poor choices. What about you? What about the destruction happening right there in front of you? Do you want to be a party to that? I understand that you love the man he used to be, but to love the man he is becoming is insane. You need to do what's right for YOU.