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Okay so this is my story and I thouhgt I would tell you how I think it could have been worse but first what really happened...
The X cam to me on monday and told me he wasn't happy I told him Okay tell me what we can do he said he needed more of my attention. With 5 kids I guess he thought that I had alot of that to spare. So that night I massaged and rubbed him all over and tried to show him how much he ment to me. The next morning he told me he thought that it was all goin to be okay and that we could work things out. Then that ight he told me he just didn't know if our marrage could work. I was blindsided, but he said that he would giv eit some time. the next morning I tried to cuddle up next to him and love on him and he pushed me away. I asked him what it was and he said that he didn't even feel like it was worth working on. I told him I was going to go to my parents and think for a little bit and i got the kids and left. I came back an hour later and he was gone. SHE had picked him up and they had gone to the hotel room that the had rented cause she had left her husband the night before. The got an appartment the next day. Well the night he left I got an eviction notice a shut off notice AND my van got repoed. He had not paid any bills in three months. He had taken out a loan on my van and had not paid it. I had to go and borrow money to pa all of this debt PLUS all of the other stuff that he hadn't paid. IT took $4000 to get out of the mess he left me in. I had to explain everything to my kids (well not the adult stuff but about that daddy was moving out) I had to deal with the lies that he spread about me cheating LIKE I WOULD EVER. But You know what it could have been worse He could have wanted to stay! Then I would have had to put up with him and his inablity to be a husband or a man. Moral of the story It can ALWAS be worse!
The X cam to me on monday and told me he wasn't happy I told him Okay tell me what we can do he said he needed more of my attention. With 5 kids I guess he thought that I had alot of that to spare. So that night I massaged and rubbed him all over and tried to show him how much he ment to me. The next morning he told me he thought that it was all goin to be okay and that we could work things out. Then that ight he told me he just didn't know if our marrage could work. I was blindsided, but he said that he would giv eit some time. the next morning I tried to cuddle up next to him and love on him and he pushed me away. I asked him what it was and he said that he didn't even feel like it was worth working on. I told him I was going to go to my parents and think for a little bit and i got the kids and left. I came back an hour later and he was gone. SHE had picked him up and they had gone to the hotel room that the had rented cause she had left her husband the night before. The got an appartment the next day. Well the night he left I got an eviction notice a shut off notice AND my van got repoed. He had not paid any bills in three months. He had taken out a loan on my van and had not paid it. I had to go and borrow money to pa all of this debt PLUS all of the other stuff that he hadn't paid. IT took $4000 to get out of the mess he left me in. I had to explain everything to my kids (well not the adult stuff but about that daddy was moving out) I had to deal with the lies that he spread about me cheating LIKE I WOULD EVER. But You know what it could have been worse He could have wanted to stay! Then I would have had to put up with him and his inablity to be a husband or a man. Moral of the story It can ALWAS be worse!
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I am absolutely amazed that you are able to say...and it could have been worse! That situation sounds pretty horrible to me. But you are very right. It could have gotten much worse.
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Damn, and still to say it could have been worse. You are strong, I know you feel you have to be with 5 kids, but you are amazing. Don't let yourself forget that. Maybe we need to come up with a spell for him? Hang in there friend.
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Lady, you have to be one tough cookie to handle all of that and still think it could have been worse. So many women have been faced with less and given up. Hang in there! It can only get better now!
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You sound like a strong, remarkably lady!! You go, Girl : ) Remember this strength in the days to come. It won't be easy, but you are up to the challenge, and when you need some support and encouragement don't be afraid to ask. When you are tired and weak, draw on the strength of others - there is no shame in that!! You're wonderful : )
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