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Ist Mediation session.

deleted_user
deleted_user
What do I expect from my first mediation session. My lawyer has drawn up the petition for divorce and the temporary motions. (Mind you he wants the divorce but I'm doing the filing--go figure--I'm still taking care of him!)

I know we will be discussing the temporary motions of support and the alimony/maintenance budget. In this state I have the burdon to support my claims. Most of the bills I totaled a year worth up and divided by 12. How can he dispute that? If according to the law I am to be supported in the was I was accustomed within reason. What's the point in disputing my claims. What should I be prepared for. My husband is being very very punitive!!!!

Will we be discussing all the aspects of divorce? Custody? Dividing the real properties? My husbands retirement and pension? Why has my lawyer not talked strategy?

Any advice Please
patti22
patti22
I don't know, but let me know when you find out please.
Patti
deleted_user
deleted_user
If both parties are reasonable it can be the beginning of the end. Most lawyers go for the throught and causes it to be dragged out at this point. By asking for too much lawyers make more out of your equity and both usually end up with 50/50 anyway.
My ex is accountant and found a way to double value of everything and would not bend. I had to fight her tooth and nail for an additional year. I got justice, and lawyers made a fortune.
deleted_user
deleted_user
throat (sp)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Mediation can work if both parties go in witht he idea of give and take. My ex didn't want to do that and it got ugly. Finally I walked out and we ended up in court with a lawyer (me) she chose not to get one. But it still got ugly and things were said that probably shouldn't have been said.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think mediation is where you try to work out ALL aspects of your divorce outside of the courtroom. If you can come to an agreement, it's a done deal. Otherwise, you proceed to court.
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