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Is using leverage for counseling wrong?

deleted_user
deleted_user
We are gonna go to counceling. She does not want to. I sort of used what we already agreed on as leverage to get this. She is so adiment about not doing it. Maybe its is tricky or wrong to use the house and rental I am giving as leverage but I feel that counceling will help me move on. Not really get us back together. I am sure that is to late. When this women makes up her mind that is it its over. Is this selfish of me?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Go to the counciling! Even if it is just you. My ex and I agreed to go, and he went the first time. We are now almost divorced, but I still go to those sessions for me. They have totally helped. And it helped the councilor see what I was dealing with. It is not selfish of you! Hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dont use that as leverage, it will not accomplish anything. If you feel you need it to move on, then do it for you and not worry about her and what she wants. This also will not endear you to her in any way shape or form.
Jo60
Jo60
If you are about to be divorced why does she need to go to councilling? Councilling will help you adjust to a new life.
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