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Where do I start? We argue regularly lately. The arguments start out civil, but then he turns to name calling and threatening to "call the lawyer". These are the same things over and over. I probably do overreact. But I am lonely and don't see him very much. He very busy with work and tonight I got mad because he went out with the guys after work. That would not have been so bad, but deer hunting starts in 2 days and then it will be 10 days before I have any(if any)time again. I am sure that the beer did not help the argument tonight. We try to hide the arguments from the kids, but...He always apologizes(sometimes days later) for the things thathe says, but the same routine happens over and over each time. I don't know if I am strong enough for divorce, but i can't do this much longer. Any advice? Should I discuss this elsewhere.
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When my stbx would fight he wouldn't even talk to me for weeks. We tried counciling but he wouldn't open up in there either. Have you tried counciling?
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I've only been here three days. You say counceling helps, then keep at it. Wish I could get mine to go the marriage therapy.
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We have gone to counseling, he doesn't say anything and then says "we went to counseling and it didn't help". I think he just goes hoping to satisfy my request. Tonight he says no he says no to counseling because there is no use anymore. I really think he has truly brought me down to my lowest tonight. Am I just feeling sorry for myself?
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First let me tell you divorce sucks, is not a lot of fun but it has broadened my horizons and I now see clearly how messed up and dysfunctional my marriage was. That said if you still have feeling for each other and you think there is a chance of saving the marriage I whole heartedly recommend counseling. We tried counseling but she had way to many issues to make it work and was not willing to to work on her issues. If he does not want to go to counseling or is not comfortable with the idea. Don't even push it because if you are both not committed to it, it will never work and yo will just end up waisting a lot of time and money.
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It is difficult to fix a marriage on your own. It takes effort from both parties. What you can do is take care of yourself. You could go to therapy and work on you, you could go to al-anon and work on you. You can go to church and work on you. The key in is to take care of you. If you get better the marriage my get better. Keep coming back to this site and learn, get ideas and for sure you will learn what DOESN'T work. I wish you the very best.
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As of late, it is just me going to counseling. It just makes me feel better getting it off my chest, but when I need it the most is right after an argument like tonight. He makes me feel so horrible about myself that I can't sleep or function the next day. That's why I am hoping that this site is helpful. Not to replace counseling, just supplement it when a counselor is unavailable.
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Thanks rob2477. I think I needed to hear that.
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For me I was stuck and stayed stuck until I got into action. There is a part of me that "liked" living in the pain, like I deserved it or something. Getting into action help me see that life is too short to live in misery.
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