Why not? They might appreciate knowing that because you are not staying married doesn't mean you are divorcing them. if they want to remain friends, that is great. If not, they are her family, and they may decide to support her by staying away from you. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck

Yes send the letter! It is a nice thing to do! They may be feeling some anxiety about how their relationship will be changing with the grandkids because of the split. If this letter relieves them of a little worry what can it hurt!

I think they would appreciate the letter very much. It's always nice to hear from someone that they are glad they have you in their life.

Steve, If it is truely how you feel. By all means send it. My x and my parents have remained very close since our divorce 7 years ago. Even after I remarried my x still calls mom every week just to see that she is ok. If I was your stbxmil it would probably make me cry. Besides it will probably feel good for you too.

Absolutely! Divorce causes a great deal of anxiety in everyone, not just the spouse and the kids. In-laws, grandparents, siblings are all affected by the loss of the relationship and if you can keep the door open that is great! They will LOVE it.

Send the letter but keep a copy. You never know when things might come back to bite you in the rear end.. so keep a copy for yourself and perhaps your children one day to share with them when they are adults.

Very generous of you.... keep up the good spirits.

Yes you should. You are divorcing your spouse. You do not have to end the relationship with your spouse's family. I am very close to my ex-mom in law. We talk weekly. She lets me know all the time how much she loves me...

I think it is wonderful that you wrote that letter.

I think this is a nice idea and very thoughtful.

yes I would send the letter. It will let them know how you that you appreciated them and they still want to be in contract with you

Hello. Just wanted to say your letter sounds fantastic. I am sure they will appreciate it :) Nice to hear something nice!!!

My stbx did this, and it upset me, and made them a little uncomfortable as well...but that was because he had NOT spoken to them and I had not yet even had a chance to talk to them the way I wanted to. I felt it was his choice to do, but the way he did it made it seem a preemptive way of proclaiming his innocence in the separation, he did mention me, and it all seemed pretty false.

I'd say, since you have already talked to them, and there are kids involved, it's nice of you to thank them and make them feel welcome as grandparents.

Yes by all means. It would mean alot to them and probably your children. Let them know you have appreciated them. Maybe it will let them know they don't have to outcast you.

By all means, send it. It is a classy thing to do. I haven't spoken to my mother-in-law since my husband told me he didn't want to be married to me anymore. I'm not sure if I should call her -- or what I would say if I did.