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Is my picker broken?

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is my picker broken?


I seem to pick em - my first wife cheated on me then it went down hill in the marriage. i started to get revenge sex and had multiple affairs which doesn't do anything but made me feel worse.

I mean you can't get over one woman by getting on top of another.

Now monday will be in the end to wife number two that cheated on me. I just wonder is my picker broken? I mean I have found some wonderful women on this forum that seem like 10 times the women that I have ever been with.

I need to fix this picker before I end up with Wife #3
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LOL I don't think so, I was wondering where this was going when I saw the title.
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I know I was trying to be funny. I am really learning to let go of the F%$#@ B%$#@^. In a calm and loving detachment.

I have really been doing great hear lately it's just the D will be final Monday and I guess we are getting at each others throats a little.
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How do you let go??? My stbx gives me the blankest looks sometimes, and just talks without any emotion. I want to smack a response out of him.
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is that true...can't get over one woman by getting on top of another???? will someone tell my stbx??? i think he got left out of that conclusion!
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I think my picker is broken too.
Just can't seem to get it repaired either. Can you recommend a good fixer? ;)
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how about trying to pick a guitar???????? LMAO just couldn't help it hehehe
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hmmm....wierd question i ask....do you pick them or do they pick you?
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I have had people suggest I try to meet someone right away. I am no ways near ready for that. It would not be far to the other person to have to deal with all the anger I have inside me from my stbx. I told a friend of mine who jumped into another relationship right after gettting out of one. It is fine to meet new people, but build the friendship first, then if there is a connection it will happen naturally.
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I bet a lot of us are wondering that. I guess thats why there is a good market for therapists and self help books. A good friend gave me some great advice recently when we talked about the next significant other. Look for respect ...he/she must respect life, values, and their family. My spouse didn't really respect my family and bearly gave his family the time of day. My first red flag. Never again. And I'll be better off for it.
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You've got it all wrong...

You get OVER someone by getting UNDER someone else.

That might be your problem right there ;)
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When you guys find the picker fixer...give me the phone number!
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Sounds like you do have some umnn...not so good luck..but that can change if ya take your time and find the right young lady. :)
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nice HG, I like that theory, if I hadn't gotten over my ex finally maybe I should have tried that out?? lol
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Try not to pick for a while - do what YOU want for you. Maybe take a break from dating for a while - give your picker a break.
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I wish I could help ya out. Ever since I was in high school all the ones I pick were no good. Met my stbx right after I graduated, thought he was the one. Well 17 years later found out he was not , now I have had guys talk to me and they are no different. Sometimes I think I have "I want a LOSER" wrote on my head. Good luck to you. You are a great guy and the right women is out there for you and you will find her or maybe she will find you. They say it will happen when you least except it.
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