I realized that the other person my ex-husband was spending his time with, was getting the same dup I got when we first started dating.

Sure, he is spoinling her now, but in a year, he will be screaming at her too. I figure better her than me :)

That is my attitude anyway.

It's crumby that he's blowing off time with his kids to spend with the new girlfriend.
My ex- also spoils my daughter. If he could only see how hard it is for her to come home and not get her way all the time! He's probably feeling guilty for leaving her or somehow he is trying to stick it to me, I'm sure.
Maybe he is trying to make you jealous with this new woman. I hate the head games.

Well, just think how they were with us in the beginning. I call it the honeymoon phase. We will all know when that is over, and we know it won't take long! Think of all the little things, things that a new person would find repulsive, like ugly toes or whatever. Things we overlooked or accepted because we loved them. You can't convince me that those things can be accepted ro overlooked by the new person, not for long!

Boy do I know the jealousy feeling. When he took her to Cancun I wanted to scream. Actually I did. He spent all of his time with me playing golf. Hated beach vacations. I do believe that once the honey moon stage is over that reality will set in. I always remember something my aunt told me -- he will never really be happy because of how he hurt me. Also, because he will never be trusted by her because he is a cheat and a liar. Hang tough. You are not alone.

Well, seeing as my STBX broke our marriage by seeing another woman (A younger woman too. I'm 24 and was left for a younger woman. There has to be humor in there somewhere, right?), I also know the jealousy thing.

Everyone is right that soon enough the fun will be over for him. I firmly believe that the reason my STBX wasn't happy in our relationship is that he isn't happy with himself. He has never had to be on his own, or do anything for himself. He cannot be alone. If he can't make himself happy, there isn't a single person in the world who can. Once he realizes that though, it will be way to late to fix things.

I certainly know about the jealousy issue. He is the one doing all of the things I should be doing with my wife. He is spending more time with my daughter than me. I haven't see her since June of last year. Daughter has a boyfriend and I wasn't the one to put the fear of God speech into him. He was.

Thank you for your support through the posts. It helps, and pray that God gives me strength & guidance through the next year to deal with all things more graciously.

My STBX sat down with my son, and told him that he plans on marrying his girlfriend, as soon as our divorce is final in early 2008.

It makes me wonder, if he is not taking the time to heal from this marriage, and into another one.

For myself, how can I not afford myself, and the kids time to regroup, heal, and grow inside emotionally to stand on my own.

I totally disagree with everything he's done, and hope in time that he realizes how he has treated me, and been disrespectful to me.