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IS IT TOO SOON TO DATE???

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I really need some advice.I met a wonderful guy recently.Hes everything that i want in a man.The only problem is ive only been seperated from my husband for 3 months.I dont want him to be the rebound guy.Im afraid of getting hurt which is the last thing i need right now.I feel so comfortable with him.I feel like we were meant to meet.He knows im not ready for anything serious and completely understands.Should i continue dating him or just call it quits now and pass up a chance to be with a wonderful man?
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We can often see the right man in many men after a relationship break down. I've met 3 men so far who were the right man for me. After spending some time with them I soon began to realise they weren't, they were just men showing me the attention I wanted my X too. I wanted to fill a whole, no good for me or them. Even if they went to touch my arm in a friendly manner, I would feel like I was being violated, like no one but my X should be doing that (still committed I suppose).

But then again my councilor said that sometimes we only really say goodbye to an X when another is allowed to touch, a break from the pattern.

Take it steady and see how things are in the future with him, if this guy is the right man he will go no where and understand.

I'm confused on this one, so choose to not bother either way.
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I agree with toogen's words however I think you should go and keep it light and see for yourself. Thats if you're able to let it go if its not. If as toogen says he's not the right man and you just liked him and initially thought he was beacause you liked the attention he gave you then you can move on from him. Don't go though if you feel you couldnt handle another break up right now as you may find you like him and he doesnt feel the same or you dont like him and he does you but just cant face another upheaval! Good luck xx
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You are the only person who knows if you are ready to move on. As you mentioned, you were up front with him about your confused feelings and that is very important. As long as you are both aware of the potential emotional pitfalls and can handle it there is no reason not to move forward. This early in a relationship there is no way to know what long term potential may or may not be there.
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