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is it to scare me

deleted_user
deleted_user
ok, do you think stbx is grasping at straws? do you think he is maybe doing all of this to scare me? he is trying to get physical custody of the boys. they are 8 and 10 and we live in ct. he cannot be home all summer like i am and he has to be in work for 7 so he cannot gett them on the bus like on can and most days he isnt here or doesnt bother getting them off the bus etc. some friends have asid maybe he is trying to scare me by ask ing for physical custody. what do you all think? and will he succed? he told family realations that he would like to move in with his mom and our 2 boys and he has planty of friends and family to help with the bus schedule.

help me out here. im tired of trying to figure it out.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I dont know if he is trying to scare you or he is just doing what his lawyer tells him to do. My stbx also said he wanted joint custody, ( 1 week on 1 week off) but he travels all the time. He was just trying to get out of paying as much child support. So it could be just a game he is playing. I hope things go well for you continue to do what you can and take the best care of the boys that you can.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
A ploy to get most of the family assets perhaps.

My Ex thought by fighting for sole custody of the children that he would automatically get the house and all the contents, and assets and not have to pay me any spousal support.

Maybe his family wants him to play hardball and refuse to pay child support and spousal support.

Talk to your lawyer, fight to keep your children. They are in a loving home, with a mom who is able to take care of them, ready them for school, etc.. and spend the full summer with them.. then that is a good mom.. doing her job.

Grandma is not their mom.
deleted_user
deleted_user
men dont generally gett physical custody unless the woman is unfit and proven in court or the kids are old enough to decide for themselves.
i think its a bluff. whats he going to say im better off than she is i live with momma.
deleted_user
deleted_user
mine said if we were to get divorced he would try to get full custody of our daughter because (at the time) i didn't know how to drive. i know this was, probably, not true. i am very sorry to say, but we never even got up at night if she was sick, so i am sure he did not want full custody. needless to say, i felt scared. i did get my license, though. anyway, good luck. i would be terrified of this, ploy or not. i can't imagine not taking care of my child. it must be so hard on the non-custodial parent who really wants to be a parent. good luck.
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