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Is it still am affair if...

deleted_user
deleted_user
My stbx has admitted to me that he is in love with another woman. He denies ever having sex with her (although I doubt this highly). During my preganancy he spent more time with her than he did me and he went to her instead of coming to me when he started to question our marriage. He has been intimate with her on an emotional level. To me he has cheated but he doesn't think so.
deleted_user
deleted_user
not sure what the question is. he cheated.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would classify that as cheating. He needed to be there for you emotionally, not her.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can argue the semantics of it if you want - whether cheating requires a sexual relationship or not - but he did cheat you out of your relationship, so yes - in my mind, that is cheating. Maybe not of the worst kind, but yes - I would say that it is.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Agreed with Lane, he cheated.
MimiL
MimiL
why does it seem as though you are not the top priority..his wife mother of his child..there isnt room for another woman in your marriage unless you are becoming Mormons
deleted_user
deleted_user
hes cheated
any emotional involvement is cheating
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'll add my "YES" to the mix - so far unanimous...
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is an affair. That is the same way it started with my ex and the ow.
Intimate affairs are worse than physical affairs.
deleted_user
deleted_user
he cheated! his focus should be on you 100%! Sharing any part of himself with another woman is cheating!
keepthehope
keepthehope
yes being involved emotionally is just as much as being involved physically. My wife continues this flirting with someone. She tells me she needs time to figure us out. What is there to figure out you are either in it or your not.
deleted_user
deleted_user
cheated. affair.
deleted_user
deleted_user
He cheated.

MimiL: Just to correct a misconception, the mainstream Mormons dont believe in polygamy however there is a derivative of them (a whole different church) that believe in it and practice it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not cheating.
Che2
Che2
It's cheating and you are wise to have your doubts about them having sex. Anyway..it's time and energy and emotions that were offered to someone other than you..it's cheating.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
if you decide there's no more relationship, it don't matter what you call it
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