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is it over

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im no fool i know when my last child is 18 my marriage is over. ive been married 25 yrs and never have been this lonely. we hae no us he works alot so hes tired we dont do anything together. hes cold distant but says he loves me. i feel like he already left me. i feel lost empty and angry on my wedding day i thought it was forever it was the happiest day of my life what should i do.weve talked about our relationship and he says hes tires and stressed i dont beliee he has someoe else but maybe he does on his day off hes home.i hate feel like i dont matter i want to be loved i want to be happy
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Mine was the same way. Cold distant distasteful. When he was at work he was on the phone with the other women. When he was home he was on the internet with the other women and the porn. He was sleeping during the day and prowling at night. His overtime became fun time. And me I was home looking after the kids, cooking his favorite meals, keeping house. And being terribly lonley. You think it can't happen to you but if there are cell phones and computers affairs happen.
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I went through this also with my bi-polar husband. I consider myself an attractive, sincere, loving, honest person and he behaved this way anyway. Maybe you could try marriage counseling or a pastor at your local church..
deleted_user
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I went through this also with my bi-polar husband. I consider myself an attractive, sincere, loving, honest person and he behaved this way anyway. Maybe you could try marriage counseling or a pastor at your local church..
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Mine has been doing the same thing to me. He takes his cell phone outside, and gets on MY computer and tells me he needs a few minutes private so I know he is emailing her. I have been giving this time to blow over hoping we could work things out but I am near my end. I have not cheated on him but always did what he wanted and loved him with all my heart, now my heart feels like its broken.
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kinda feel the same way..then and now..the only difference is i want to be loved and happy, but now realize it aint gonna be with him..theres someone out there just waiting for me..course its gonna be a long wait cause i aint ready..but one day!
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I really believe if we keep thinking about a certain outcome we can act in ways that make it happen. If you really believe your marriage is over when your last child is 18 are you already sending that message to your husband?

You say there are no signs of another woman. Perhaps your husband is depressed.

Before you give up on a 25 year marriage try gentle expressions of love that show him that even though you guys are going through a rough time you still love him. Gentle touches, hugs, hand holding. Nothing to aggressive so he doesn't feel like you are warming him up for sex all the time. Sex and Stress don't mix. He may be more open to counseling if he feels there is love still there for him.

25 years is worth fighting for and you have no idea how painful divorce will be. You have no idea...
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