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Is it a good idea to ask STBX questions?

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OK.... I am the one that moved out to an apartment....so I don't have a lot of questions regarding how to cut the grass or anything, but I have questions about car repair or maintenance.
I had a nail in my tire and had it repaired by a local tire shop. I asked the STBX after the repair was finished a question about the repair, since this was on a run flat tire.... What I got back was that I shouldn't have done what I did... and that I must have let the tire place mess up the rim. Since one of the reasons I left was due to him making me feel like S#@! for not doing things up to his 100% perfect standards... should I not ask him questions again?
And does anyone know how to not let these types of things effect how bad they make you feel?
I had a nail in my tire and had it repaired by a local tire shop. I asked the STBX after the repair was finished a question about the repair, since this was on a run flat tire.... What I got back was that I shouldn't have done what I did... and that I must have let the tire place mess up the rim. Since one of the reasons I left was due to him making me feel like S#@! for not doing things up to his 100% perfect standards... should I not ask him questions again?
And does anyone know how to not let these types of things effect how bad they make you feel?
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Anyway, even though he told me he would help with these things, in the end, it is all on me. And our marriage also suffered under the strain of his perfectionist attitude, so it is always a big deal to ask him anything.
I am not going to ask him again for any advice. Just makes me feel bad...
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I wouldn't ask him anymore. Ask other people & I'm sure men here will be glad to offer advice also.
I wouldn't ask him a thing.