I asked for advice earlier. See the How to deal with the significant other when the ex isn't honest. I know that my ex has the right to move on and see whomever he wants and do whatever he wants. I guess bottom line is my ex gets upset because I probably freak out a little when I'm not expecting the other woman to be around. She lives in Indiana we live in NY. So, is it too much to expect to be told that she will be there when he tells me his plans? I wouldn't freak out if I knew that she was there. When the other woman is around I'm greeted at the door and his family members act all weird. When she isn't I'm invited in and we chat. When she's there my ex tiptoes around it and leaves things out. He won't even say her name to me. He doesn't tell our son that he will be out of town visiting her. Our son knows her and has met her so why not tell him? When he doesn't tell me it makes me suspicious and I don't trust him. He tried to get me to consent to a Florida trip without telling me who he was going with when it was my custodial week. I have to trust my ex because we share every other week custody with our three year old son. All the psychologists and gurus say that in order for our situation to work communication between the parents is key. So, long story short. Is it too much to expect that he will just mention that she will be there like its no big deal so I'm not surprised by it?
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