I found out my husband had a girl friend(that is what he is calling her). Just a friend. We have been married for 14 years and the whole time I have really felt like he didn't want to be with me. He would tell me that he did want to be with me but, that he is quiet and doesn't show his feelings so I just needed to deal with it. So, I did until I found out about the girl friend that he would talk to for hours every night. Some calls were 2 1/2 to 4 1/2 hours long. That kind of threw out the I don't like to talk on the phone excuse that he always gave me. So, then I found out that he told her about things that he doesn't even talk to me about(his sister that died). When I called the chick she told me that it was common knowledge where they work that he is only married to me for the kids. He denied that of course. The phone calls have stopped and he says they don't talk at work. He has been being really nice to me but, I don't buy the just a friend thing and it really pisses me off. I have asked him to leave but, he says he doesn't want to. He says that I need to quit being so insecure and deal with the way he is. We are financially stuck at the moment. So, if I kick him out we will need to file bankruptcy. I think that is why he doesn't want to move out. He has also said that we can live in the same house and just live seperate lives. What do you think?
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