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Is forgiveness needed to really move on?

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My living situation is agony (my husband quit on our marriage for no reason at all other than saying "I just dont' have what it takes to be married" and I unfortunately have to live with him for financial reasons until I finish school in two years.I am filled with hatred for what my husband has done to me and my life and despair. Living together is a hell I wouldn't wish on anyone and obviously trying to move on like this is beyond challening...but I NEED to...I WANT to...and I'm wondering...is forgiveness necessary for me to really be able to move forward and focus on me? What do you all think? Is forgiveness a necessary step to move forward? Or will it just eventually happen when its supposed to happen. I feel shackled in place...as much as I want to try to move forward, the pain and despair is like quicksand all around me and all I do is sink in my efforts to move forward. I'm wondering if forgivenss is a lifeline I need to accomplish before I can really move forward with rebuiding my life..
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KIM
Hope you find a better way to finish school than living with ex.
As long as you are conscious of the fact that forgiveness is not a gift to the person you are forgiving, but a gift to yourself... it'll happen in due time and when you are ultimately ready. Sorry you have to live with him.... that must be awful. God Bless sweetie.
I can't imagine living with stbx. I don't know how you do it. {{{HUGS}}}
I forgave my stbx very early on, somehow. But I couldn't move on emotionally until I could accept what had happened, and that our relationship was over.
"Forgiveness is giving up the hope that things would have been different."
I guess my trouble is more about accepting the negative changes in my life, rather than accepting his actions and his decision. Whats most painful to me right now is how its warped my life into something twisted and not at all what I had hoped for