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I think that as much as I am working to move beyond sadness, it is the anger that bothers me the most. Has anyone else been plagued by imagining their spouse's affair? At first it was all I could do to shake the video out of my head, the hugely passionate night of sex and romance, the satisfaction and love and the disdain that they felt for me while I was busy driving the kids around to soccer games and mowing the lawn.
Reality set in and as I learned more about the affair, I realized that it was not the "romance novel" that I had built up in my head. Still, almost daily I am angry over the thought of them playing silly games, cuddling, doing those things that only we used to do, saying those things that only we used to say.
Does this ever go away? Maybe it shouldn't entirely. Maybe it is good to hold onto some of this so that I don't let myself get hurt again and to hold her accountable for what she has done.
Reality set in and as I learned more about the affair, I realized that it was not the "romance novel" that I had built up in my head. Still, almost daily I am angry over the thought of them playing silly games, cuddling, doing those things that only we used to do, saying those things that only we used to say.
Does this ever go away? Maybe it shouldn't entirely. Maybe it is good to hold onto some of this so that I don't let myself get hurt again and to hold her accountable for what she has done.
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If those images come into my mind, I start shouting NO NO NO NO NO. And, it's either sleeping pills or antidepressants, depending on the situation to get me to block it out of my mind again.
I think this is hell that I will always have to go through for the rest of my life.
My wife comes back tomorrow night and that's one of the things I want so badly to explain to her--how she's permanently damaged me with what she did. I want her to suffer from some of the permanent pain that she gave me for the rest of her life, too.
I think we're going to start with I'm going to force her to admit and apologize to my family IN PERSON for what she did. That's a good start for letting her see the pain a little more clearly.
She said she'd do whatever I asked partially because I still have the upper hand with the INS and she could have major problems if I called them.
Good luck with tomorrow. Don't do anything that you will regret, but do maintain your dignity.