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I want to share my journal with everyone and get some advice.
Last night my husband came home got a shower and put on his sweats. I was SHOCKED!. I asked him aren't you going to the bar and he said he can't afford it anymore. He sais he spent $700.00 there in the past month and has nothing to show for it. I tried to tell him that a month ago. He has been blowing money like crazy and I can't say anything about it. This is money he earned from his side job. So it is not money I counted on. Although in the past it would have been deposited and we would have paid extra on bills. Or I would have spent it on Christmas for the kids. Well last night he tells me that he is going to leave his check getting direct deposited into my account and I am to transfer the differnce ot his account. Not sure how long that is going to last. He also made a comment that even is he is miserablw when he moves out that he could never come back to us. He said he burnt to many bridges with us. I think it comes down to he doesn't love me and won't come out and say it. I could handle the truth for once. That is all I need to hear to help me heal and realize that we are truly done. He said I could have everything in the house, but if someone else moves in that it will all be split 50/50. I am trying to figure out if that is a control thing or if he is right. So if I meet someone in 5 years he will take half of everything? He does not want lawyers or domestic relations involved at all. We have never mentioned the "D" word. I am not sure if I should just wait 6 months and see how things are and then know where to go from here. So confused. Did I mention we are still having sex. He also said don't expect him to call me and tell me how his day was. I know I should not have sex with him anymore, but I love him and if that is all the attention I can get from him I will take it. At least he will have that to remember me by right?
Last night my husband came home got a shower and put on his sweats. I was SHOCKED!. I asked him aren't you going to the bar and he said he can't afford it anymore. He sais he spent $700.00 there in the past month and has nothing to show for it. I tried to tell him that a month ago. He has been blowing money like crazy and I can't say anything about it. This is money he earned from his side job. So it is not money I counted on. Although in the past it would have been deposited and we would have paid extra on bills. Or I would have spent it on Christmas for the kids. Well last night he tells me that he is going to leave his check getting direct deposited into my account and I am to transfer the differnce ot his account. Not sure how long that is going to last. He also made a comment that even is he is miserablw when he moves out that he could never come back to us. He said he burnt to many bridges with us. I think it comes down to he doesn't love me and won't come out and say it. I could handle the truth for once. That is all I need to hear to help me heal and realize that we are truly done. He said I could have everything in the house, but if someone else moves in that it will all be split 50/50. I am trying to figure out if that is a control thing or if he is right. So if I meet someone in 5 years he will take half of everything? He does not want lawyers or domestic relations involved at all. We have never mentioned the "D" word. I am not sure if I should just wait 6 months and see how things are and then know where to go from here. So confused. Did I mention we are still having sex. He also said don't expect him to call me and tell me how his day was. I know I should not have sex with him anymore, but I love him and if that is all the attention I can get from him I will take it. At least he will have that to remember me by right?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Picture 12 years down the road, your eldest daughter telling you she is still having sex with her hard drinking (apparently) controlling husband, who doesn't want to be married, but doesn't want lawyers involved.
Would you accept that for HER?
Would you encourage this type of relationship for either of your girls?