Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Just want to know how to deal with my stbx and the kids. We are still in the same house and will be having a coustidy battle. The kids don't know(she does not think they should know yet)about the divorce. Anyway, she will just pick them up and go at any time. Once in a while she will ask if I have plans with them but mostly no. I work 40 hours and she is PT. My weekends are my free time to spend with them and this weekend I didn't see them except for just a couple hours. Today their is a party with her family but yesterday she had them all day.
Yes, I know I need to get used to it when things are final, but it hurts bad right now. When I try to talk to her she gets really emotional and wants to yell. Man, the kids got to know what's up.
What to do?
Just want to know how to deal with my stbx and the kids. We are still in the same house and will be having a coustidy battle. The kids don't know(she does not think they should know yet)about the divorce. Anyway, she will just pick them up and go at any time. Once in a while she will ask if I have plans with them but mostly no. I work 40 hours and she is PT. My weekends are my free time to spend with them and this weekend I didn't see them except for just a couple hours. Today their is a party with her family but yesterday she had them all day.
Yes, I know I need to get used to it when things are final, but it hurts bad right now. When I try to talk to her she gets really emotional and wants to yell. Man, the kids got to know what's up.
What to do?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
We did have counsiling but that made it all the worse.
We did have our "nights" but then we tried to reconsile and now were back to the divorce issue again. I will tell her we need to "go back" to our nights.
Thanks
The kids know.
Time you two sat down with the children and tell them what is going on. Reassure them that they are both very much loved and you will always be their Mom and Dad, not matter where you might live.
It would be crappy if your boys somehow became emotional eunachs and lived in a state of denial or worse go into a depression because there is lack of communication, lack of respect to them. They need to be told what is happening. You do not know what the future holds, so you can only tell them what you DO know.. you know you love them.
Apparently their is a breakdown in communication with you and your wife.
You need to spend time with your children, you are their father.... games on her part are not going to be beneficial to the boys.
Call your lawyer... shoot a letter over to her and her lawyer stating that there are games being played and that you need to have time with the boys.. not just a minute here or there, but specific Dad time on the weekends. Weekdays not going to work if you are to keep working to support the family financially.