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In shock...

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Believe it or not I just talked to my best friend and she is going thru the same thing with her husband who is also my best friend(like a brother) and all this happened yesterday..he confessed to her that he had cheated last week and when I talked to him today he said that he wasn't in love with her anymore and didn't want to tell her b/c of my same situation and what I was going thru..I love them both and am trying to stay impartial but hearing him say those words to me was the CREEPIEST feeling b/c that is exactly what my stbx said to me, word for word...this time being there for her means a little more b/c I know the exact pain she is feeling, its not often you can say that..hopefully I can stay impartial but who knows..any thoughts?
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Be there for your girlfriend,, the man cheated,, nough said!
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How weird, maybe you can get a group rate from the lawyers.... Man, it might be nice to have a best friend to go through it with ... on the other hand.... wow... Good Luck!
Thriver
Thriver
Group rate, why not. If they can marry a thousand couples at once at a Moonie ceremony, why not divorce them the same way?
You are not going to be able to be impartial. If you do, it will be like taking the man's side, because he is the one who did wrong, and if you don;'t acknowledge this as her friend it will hurt her. Be prepared to take sides to some extent. You can keep the lines of communication and even friendship open, but you will have to make it clear what you think.
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I think this may be harder then what you expect. Both of them are your best friends? She will feel awful if you speak to him and call him a friend after what he did, no matter what she says to you. You have already been put in the middle because he told you, not her, that he no longer loves her. She doesn't know yet, but you do. O what he's doing to the both of you and it's just starting.

Good luck!
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Friendship is held to be the severest test of character. It is easy, we think, to be loyal to family and clan, whose blood is our own veins. Love between man and woman is founded on the mating instinct and is not free from desire and self-seeking. But to have a friend, and to be true under any and all trials, is the mark of a man! (Or woman as the case may be)

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