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Impact of the Internet

deleted_user
deleted_user
Is it me or is the internet a huge threat to relationships? It seems that straying emotionally or physically is so easy now due to the internet and that it is so easy to hide sneaky behavior. I had it happen to me and until I actually found it, I would have not worried about it. Guess I am naive.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe--but mine used text messaging. What I have found, for me is that the internet has saved me. I don't know how I would have gotten through all of this withtout the online support.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, me too. Without this support group I shudder to think how I would feel. I guess there are pros and cons to everything and it depends on the integrity of the individual as to how something is used.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Everything on this planet has two sides-good and bad.

I look at the friends that I could not have lived without-internet friends.

All of the years that I sat in a lonely house, waiting for stbx to come home. The internet friends kept me company so many times.

I never had an affair, it never crossed my mind. These were FRIENDS. I am not responsible for what he did with his connection.
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
it's a transition. old relationships may be threatened

but the new ones will be part of the package and both sides will have the same playing field, esp the ones who meet Online

our kids have cells, texts and the internet as part of their blood. they're used to it.

their generation will find their stbx's in Librarys meeting people

LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
The Internet is how I found the "tells" of the relationships my ex was having in real life.

And, the Internet is also where I found DS, which has saved my butt serveral times over.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The Internet like any other technology is a tool, this forum is on the Internet yet it brings positive understanding and hope. It is only the heart of a human (man or woman) that a tool can be used to distroy and take apart. If a heart is untrue it will find the tool of choice no matter what , be it a bar, club, work, or the Internet.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I never used Internet until divorce was final. I like this site but overall cyber is over rated. To me its sick if someone has affairs on it, or if they meet someone while married. Doing that is about the same as going to a red light district in the olden days to find a friend...lol.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was so poor when he left-I did not have internet-If I had known the true magitude of his deceptions-(which I learned from the internet) I would not have made the agreements I made, I would have filed for divorce immediatly, and gotten half of what was mine.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think the internet is a threat to healthy relationships.

I do feel like it makes straying easier for those in doubt or without willpower.. There is so much out there now - eharmony, and all these on line services - not to mention all the forums.

Yeah, I can definitely see where the internet can be a threat to vulnerable relationships and people.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The internet played such an important role in the demise of my marriage. The porn sites, the adult friend finder was a way for her to start her cyber sexing and affairs. It played a major role in killing my marriage.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yep, the internet is evil.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I Love this post. Played a major role in the demise of mine as well, the building of mistrust, the constant emailing to her exes and guys she went to school with back in Georgia, the phone calls... however. The internet is also to blame for the best thing that has ever happened to me.. Its a double edged sword..
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