
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I know I just posted about this rollercoaster ride the other day and how I hate it. I keep waiting to go up but My rollercoaster is steadily going down. I can't pull myself up. Maybe it's the holidays...I don't know. I just can't shake this sadness over me. It's like a raincloud over my head. I think I am rotting in self pity. I am so sad about where I am in my life ( single, divorced mother of two, both ad/hd and one is autistic ) and my ex is moving into new place with his girlfriend, and going out and getting to laugh and be happy, and take my kids for his weekends and they all drive off like one big happy family, while I sit here and figure out how he got so lucky to move on with his life and find happiness. I get to wonder why he changed for her, but never did for me. I keep thinking about all the horrible things he did to me, and how he is so nice to her. All the pet names he had for me, I hear him calling her. I gotta get my ex and his girlfriend out of my head.
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Also, remember, in a new relationship everything int he beginning is new and fresh. Like fresh painted walls, or a new blossom on a tree. Soon, the blossoms wither and fall, or the paint gets finger prints and dirt on it. Just know in due time you will find the happiness you've had, in yourself and as well, your children are blessed to have a great mother. Be thankful for that, and know you do not need a person to make you happy inside you. In due time, that can be a focus but now, just work on who you are, accept where you are in the ending of your relationship, and know your children are still the most important to you.
I feel for you.
What is your motivation?
#6 Thanks for your understanding, because yes, I do think we need to have the motivation to move on and not wallow right? Well, I woke up and decided that he doesn't get to take my peace of mind, either. I am going to try to be comfortable with my life as is it. I was upset that me, he would hit, and her, he would love unconditoionally. But I would rather he did change, than stay the same. I wouldn't want her to live what I lived. For now, that is my motivation.
#4 u r right, never get back...
and #5 I am going to try to stop caring as much...makes my day easier...
thanks guys
He acts happy with her at this time, just like he probably did you in this stage! His eyes will open one morning and she will be old news and she will be treated the same way you were and he will do the same thing to her that he did to you! Pity her,, she is in for the pain that she helped him cause you!
We all care for you and are here to help you!
Big hugs!
men like that are "good" when it's new. If he's truly changed, then great for your kids. Doesn't sound like it though, he can't even come up with new pet names? That's sincere (not).
You are doing the right thing by feeling your feelings. venting your grief, anger and frustration.
Vent away sweetie!