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im leaving my husband dont know if i should

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My husbands always been an addict , but i only married him cause i thought it was over and i love him to pieces. anyway i found out recently hes using again and now hes even started hiting me punching ,pushing , kidnapping me . i left him two nights ago i might get a divorce. i dont know yet. im thinking about moving away , but the thought of being away from my love is almost unbarable , i just dont knonw if i can go back im scared of him , idont know if he will hurt me.anyone here go through something similar?
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I am so sorry for you. You cannot be around someone who hits you. If you are afraid, get an emergency restraining order down at the courthouse. These are usually free.

Have you been to Al-Anon? These are groups for the loved ones of alchoholics/addicts. You would find a lot of love and wisdom there. Stick around here too.
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ya ive been to the groups before my husband stopped going and so did i , i dont think he wants to change so i feel like i dont want to try
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The group is for you, not him. You are in love with an abusive alcoholic/addict. That tells you something about you that you need to work on to make sure you don't get into that situation again.

Unless he gets some serious help, he will hurt you again. So, just take care of yourself now. He won't change unless he has to and wants to. Pain is the great teacher.
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hes the kind that does anything to get you back the ultamite deciver, then when hes got you for sure he acts like im hes property , and turns into someone else a mean disrespectful person , mabie thats the real him
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I know what you are going through. I fought 10 years for something that I could not save. You need to realize that you cannot help him beat his addiction. He has to want it. There is no trying to quit, he needs to make the decision to never use again.

If he is physically abusing you, you need to get away, and stay away.

If he does not try to change, there is nothing that you can do to change him.
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sorry about my bad spellling
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thank you for the support sometimes i think im crazy he makes me feel like everythings my fault he even told me i cant keave him cause i have to honor my marriage vows , its nice to know someone thinks that leaving is ok
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Yes, I know the type. He is a manipulator. Even if his intent is good, his problems are too big for him to change on his own.

When you do the same things, you get the same results, as you have seen. If you want different results, you must do something different this time. You cannot walk back into that situation and expect anything but what you have already got. I am sorry. This is a law of nature.
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Abusive men often bring out the Bible to beat women over the head with. His vows were to love, honor, and cherish you. He broke the marital covenant and the marital vows. Game over.
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that actually makes me happy to know , makes me feel better that so true i have to do something different this time
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lol omg that was so funny thank for making me laugh , true he broke em first guees i shoudnt feel bad for trying to be safe
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Also, there is no excuse for a man hitting a woman, EVER, period. Saying it is your fault is the oldest game in the book.
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i guees mabye i will move away and try to focuse on my happyness
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Yes, it is right to love and take care of yourself. Whatever you have to do, do it. You are young and have a whole wonderful life ahead of you. You do not need or want to live in a dark hole of pain.

Hugs to you.
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thank you i feel better now
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