Just take each day at a time. It's too over whelming when you try and figure out the past or see the future. Go buy some really nice smelling candles, play some inspirational music, watch your favorite movie, and eat a pint of icecream. You deserve it!

It's ok to cry. And it's ok to get more rest. You are going through a lot right now. When you wake up and your eyes are dry, talk to people online here, then call a friend or family member and go out to dinner. Staying in contact with as many people as possible will help you through this. I used to be a withholder. I would not share my fears and heartaches with people because I used to feel that it made me appear to be weak and vulnerable. Now, I know that I need to release negative and depressive energy..... the process of healing.

Zoom is right. It's ok to cry. Get it out and get on DS! You can even cry while you are on DS! There are so many people here who know what it is you are going through. It does help when someone can say to you "I know how you feel" and mean it.

I'm so sorry you're at this point in your life, but crying can be so theraputic and cathartic!! When I went through a horrible time a few years ago I found this saying and it keeps me grounded all the time... RECOVER, REFOCUS and REGENERATE. Take the time you need to heal your wounds. I'm sending you huge hugs!!

I'm alone after 30 yrs, yes it sucks and it's scarey but it sure beats living like i was. It's been 2ys since i seperated and i have been divorced 8 mo. You set your mind to do it and you can, Be strong......I still have days i want to cry all the time, it's okay.....I was one of those people who thought i could not make it on my own, I am doing it WELL! It's not always easy but you will be okay it just take time. Good Luck to you, i send you hugs!