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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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and i cant talk to him about it. i went to the library a little while ago to p/u Dinosaurs divorce so i can read it b4 having to finally tell the boys what is going on. i started to cry when i got to the car and read just a few pages. im a sap arent i ? A childrens divorce book making me blubber. Oh well.. the book and the fact that the pastors wife works at the library and she was shocked and told me i should call her first to talk. ive already gone to talk to the pastor (her husband) with stbx but then he went on sabatacle. our relationship was going nowhere anyway. it is just the facts.
any advice, inputs , comments?
any advice, inputs , comments?

Thriver
Talk more to friends and try to get to the point where you are not going to break down. I agree, you are not ready. It is too raw for you. If you seem to really be falling apart, it may be scary for them.

deleted_user
Yes, children must not feel it is their job to take care of their parents' feelings. A little tearing up is OK, blubbing is scary.

deleted_user
I think the main concern is for you to help yourself become strong. Your not a sap for crying. This is hard, and the tears helps to bring peace. I'm sorry, I'm going to be honest. I have cried with my kids--And I've been honest with them. Dad loves you, he doesn't mean to hurt anyone, but this is hard on me. But we will all get through it. The kids know that in return, then can cry in front of me. Take care of youself, and give yourself some slack.

deleted_user
You're not a sap! If you are then so are many others who have felt the same way as you! Little things like that use to make me cry too. Funny thing is if you look at me, i'm 6'2" tall, big guy with shaved head goattee and can be kind of intimidating, but i cried all the time, hard to picture huh? I'm doing better now and haven't broken down lately, but it took a lot of time to get to his point. Hang in there, you will get stronger, but unfortunately only time will heal you! You should also go to counseling, read books, anything to help get you going in the right direction.

deleted_user
The advice here is good. Your heart is broken. The rejection and betrayal is huge. Hold off telling the kids until you can show them that things change and it will be ok. You don't feel ok yet and that's normal. You need to care for your self. Build up your self esteem. You are a strong woman you are desirable you can live single and be ok. Try support groups, sign up at divorcecare.com for their e-mails, if you have insurance go to your doctor get some anti depressants and a good referral to someone to talk to. Then pick a close circle of friends and call and talk to somebody everyday. And Finally Pray For God to take control of your life and grant you peace. You will get better.

deleted_user
Divorce is really sad for kids. But, they do adjust. if you don't talk to them will their father soon mention it? we had decided to tell our child together, but before we did he lost his temper and just told her that he was leaving. she had a really hard time. for yourself you may want to read "Mom's House, Dad's House". I found it very helpful. I think it is really important to try to leave adult problems with the adults, if you can.
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