
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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When my wife left I couldnt stop calling her and pleading with her. I knew this had to stop so I did. I have not spoken to her for two weeks. I know that we will have to speak at some point to sort out the house that we bought together and eventually the divorce. Monday she sent me text message to "check how I was doing" and that I was OK. I didnt respond. Two days later she sent me another text message. Again I ignored it. It now hurts me to have to communicate with her and I feel like it sets me back. Should I respond being mindful of the fact that I need to keep the peace while there are still practical issues to resolve or should I be selfish, protect my feelings and ignore her because it hurts less?
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Sorry you are facing all of this!
or ok.
or sorry you've been busy, etc.
or, don't reply at all.
I did the same as you my friend. I tried to stay cordial amidst the most evil divorce I've ever witnessed and survived.
If SHE instigated all this, she has to accept the fact you need to heal and do whatever you need to do to cope with the situation. The best thing she can do for you is to give you your space and keep whatever contact there is between the two of you on some kind of consistent, predictable pace. So in short, put yourself first, don't respond if that is what you need to do to heal better.
You can't be concered with her anymore.