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deleted_user 02/15/2009

Why didn't you F***ing file first?!!! What is your goddamn hurry? You have been wanting out since 2007, so why the hell was it up to me to file? Can't you be a little more patient while I handle our children's emergencies? You know, the kids that you do not want and are giving me sole custody of?!!! I am so sorry that you need your portion of the tax refund to pay back the college you flunked out of. You said I was the one to file for us and I have had my hands busy handling our 4 sons, winter illnesses and my OWN LIFE!! SCREAM!!

Calling my lawyer to see where the papers are and finishing the taxes have been at the bottom of my list!! But I am sure that once I finish my exam that I was supposed to take last Monday, food shopping, parent-teacher conferences, homework and daily life of raising four boys, I will get right to those issues of yours!!!

After all, you have lived by your motto, "Sara will handle it." So, be patient to let me FUCKING handle it you cowardly, lazy SOB!!

--Sara

p.s. The next time you chuckle about my week being bad because our youngest son was sick and then had to be rushed to the hospital by ambulance, and the oldest son having an emergency at the pool, I am going to find a way for my fist to reach through 1200 miles of phone lines!!

lycesq 02/15/2009

I know just what you mean - my husband is the same way. It's been three years and he is on my back to file the rest of the paperwork - I filed and served him two years ago.. Hello, I work full-time and have a life; he's unemployed and sits on his butt, watching CNN. And I'm supposed to do all the work?

He sent me a snotty email before Christmas asking if I was just "stringing him along" . No, I was sick for two weeks and had surgery scheduled in January that I am still recovering from.

Really pisses me off.

Ok, soothing thought, Om-m-m-m-m

Lynne

deleted_user 02/15/2009

My x did not know what he wanted. I think he wanted to keep me and have the gf on the side, and I was not about to do that. I had to leave and I had to file. If I had let him control the situation, I would still be living out of my suitcase in the US or overseas somehwere. He was and still is a coward.

hurtinandhealin2560 02/15/2009

He's a fucktard, Sara.

Breathe, breathe, breathe.

Hugs!!

deleted_user 02/15/2009

I am breathing..FiRE aimed straight at the fucktard!!

Can you tell I am a tad angry toward him today?

--Sara

deleted_user 02/15/2009

I know how frustrated you are...but you do need to make filing and finalizing a priority if you want said "fucktard" out of your life as much as possible. There will always be a reason to delay, but you can't fully move on until this monkey is off your back.

deleted_user 02/15/2009

I will "validate" you... you have EVERY right to be angry!!!
Hugs!

deleted_user 02/15/2009

Why do you have to be the one to file? I mean, you have all the responsibility of the kids. Why not just say to him "I'm not doing it. You do it." And leave it there.

If he harasses you, just tell him you will not be doing it. You have other priorities.

Too bad he needs the money, etc. Tough noogies. That's a consequence of his own choice.

He's laid all the responsibility at your feet. So lay some at his now.

And if he calls bothering you, tell him you will not allow him to bother you, and hang up.

What a jerk.

Hang in there, Mom2Four!

deleted_user 02/15/2009

Nimel I am not in any rush to file the taxes even though I need the refund too. I am going to do it when playing catch up has been done. If I wait for STBX to divorce me, I will never be divorced. Which is why I filed because I want a divorce!!

--Sara

lycesq 02/15/2009

Sara - totally get it and that is why I am working on the paperwork tomorrow (holiday)

Lynne

deleted_user 02/15/2009

No Sara, I get it too.

I filed for divorce as well, even though he was the one who wanted it.

But as to doing anything else he wants you to do, I'd tell him to go shove it.

You're busy, extremely busy raising 4 kids and going to school, taking care of everything. Anything he wants done, he can do himself.

Wow...it's amazing how many men (and women, I know) are so frigging self-absorbed. Totally amazing.

deleted_user 02/15/2009

Oooooh, Sara, I am so understanding your anger, I was you yesterday! I am cool with your anger, just get it out and let it go. Less to carry around that way. (I am utterly exhausted today from feeling my anger yesterday, lol.)

deleted_user 02/15/2009

i'm angry right there with ya!
what a ass

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