Well, for me, COMMUNICATION is a BIG part of a marriage. We can "LISTEN" to what is being said, but do we "actually" HEAR what our partner is saying, expressing etc? If you do NOT have good communications between BOTH partners, it makes the marriage a LOT harder to "survive" & "make it work." Keep Your Chin UP!~! :)

Not to have married at all ? There were signs that he was dishonest from when we were dating but I didn't see it or didn't want to see it.

Given that I still married him, I would have not fallen into playing the role I played that allowed him to manipulate me and set boundaries so he would have not eventually controlled me.

To have left him when we got back from our "honeymoon".

There was no Anything that was ever going to make this Better. He needed Help and flatly refused.

Sad to see so many of us would have liked to have seen the signs much earlier. I would wish for the same. I can't say I regret having married stbx, but had I seen those signs, I would not have wasted as many years trying to make it all work. Time to move beyond the hurt and pain to a much happier, healthier ME!

I wish I would have never married her

I should have left her a year ago instead of sticking it out and letting her dump me

I would say Communication, we wouldn't listen to each other. We would communicate with friends, but not each other and obviously that didn't help. Another part, affection with three kids, it was difficult to spend time with each other...

No alcohol!!!

I wouldn't change a thing. I am happy for the time I had with my spouse but now ive moved on and so has he. There is no point in what if or if only.

I am the only one I can change. I know that after being a single mom for 10 years after coming out of an abusive marriage, I brought a lot of lack of respect for men in general into my marriage. I have worked on it for many years just not done yet.

except for my daughter, who is a joy--the one truly beautiful thing to come out of our relationship, i would have to say not getting married to him in the first place. he was selfish. i was unhappy. he needs help, but he needs to get it on his own.

A stronger me. Had I been a stronger person I could have prevented this with my choices.

To still have one. I miss my husband and I miss being married.

I would've focused more on me and less on him, his needs and wants were my priorities .... bad idea ... I made him into my child, again, bad idea .... I would've seen the red flags from the beginning, funny, I put a restraining order on him after we were dating for just a few months, but I droped it .... I wouldn't remembered why I put the restraining order on him and stuck to it ... I would've been enough by myself .... would've, could've .... but there's no sense of looking back

I met my stbx on New Year's Eve. He left the party to go check on his daughter who was sick and his Mom was watching her. He asked his friend to make sure I stayed there until he got back. I thought he is just SO sweet and caring.............BS

He probably went and had EX SEX and then, stopped by for a quickie with OW that caused that divorce and then came back for his next conquest!

If I could change anything, I would go back to that moment right as he walked back into the party after an abscence of an hour and a half. I would fly out the door so fast, I'd be a blur before his eyes!

20/20 hindsight sucks!