i think sometimes thay want that friendship to ease the guilt. don't get caught up in thinking it could be more, it hurts even worse. do what you have to, to sheild your heart and help you move on.

i second that

I agree with chrurop!

Im doing what I have to do to protect me & that right now is the most minimal contact. She says Im being childish.

I don't know. SOunds a bit weird imo, especially if she is supposingly moving on.

Sounds just like my wife. She wanted me to eat breakfast with her and the kids Sunday morning before church. She wanted me to sit in church with her and kids. She texted me about how my job was going..etc etc..
It was her way of not feeling guilty for walking the fuck out. Guess what...I dont want to be friends with the woman I have loved for 10 years. If I cant be both that is!

Yea boat, I say its all or none?

Take care of yourself; she is trying to ease her own conscience. It may very well be that even if she is ending things, she cares for you as the father of her children and wants to do something nice for you, in part to ease her own mind, or maybe even b/c she thinks it will help you. If it's painful to you, then keep your distance. Don't worry if she thinks it's childish. She's not on your team any more. Do what you need to do to cope.

I am so sorry she is playing with you emotions like that. I agree with the others about the guilt. Guess this makes me glad my stbx would rather just hate me, and has no guilt over cheating. sorry you are going through this.

I'm staying friendly with mine for the kids sake, but I do recognize I still care for her. Its different for me because I used to try to put meaning to all of actions. Don't get me wrong I'm pissed and hurt, but make the choice in your mind that the things she does, will not affect how you live your life. Karma is a woderful thing and what comes around goes around. Ultimately the choice is yours and my choice at this point is "I don't care what you do with your life". Sure, I'll be your friend which is a hell of a lot different than being your husband! Just my two cents.

Ok .. this is freakin me out...was there some sort of witches convention over the weekend???
My stbx rings me today to see how my trip away was (i had a little holiday)...all nice as pie..like she gives a sh#t...playing the "I want to be your friend card" is f#@ked up...perhaps one day...maybe..if hell should suddenly freeze over...but otherwise get your foot off my heart Im just trying to get my sh#t back in the bag...Sorry 01Wun...I know how you feel!