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If hes moved on why cant I?

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Im new to this whole online support system. I guess at this point Ill try anything that could make me feel better. I ran away from home with I was 15 years old to be with my then boyfriend. One year and one month later we were married. Now 7 years later we live separate countries. Part of me wishes I could let him go, forget him as he forgotten me. The marriage was going down hill for the last 2 years. Neither of us did anything to try to help the situation. We just watched as everything we had worked so hard to build went down in flames. I cheated. A decision that I have regretted every day. I guess Im just so tiered. So tiered of crying myself to sleep so tiered of calling and calling and never getting an answer. So tiered of his indifference of his lies. So tiered of the guilt and the pain. If hes moved on why cant I?
deleted_user
deleted_user
How do you know for sure he has moved on? Did he move on because you cheated or did you cheat to try and forget about him? I think that if you were capable of cheating you don't really love him. I also cheated and regret it deeply but I am not sure I am still in love with my ex, although I do want him back. I think time will help you to let him go. You will love again. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I dont know hes moved on. He left the country just to get away from me. Unless its payday Friday he speaks to me with such indifference as if we hadnt just spent the last 7 years of our lives together as if Im not still his wife. I dont know that hes moved on but it sure does look and feel that way. I cheated out of anger, I felt so abandoned and neglected. I dont I wont make excuses for it. I know it was wrong and not a day passes that I dont regret it but I didnt do it just for the fun of it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
He may be making it look like he has moved on but that may not be the truth. Please don't keep calling him and trying to talk to him. It does make it harder on yourself.

Try to act like you have moved on, try to treat him the same way he treats you,give him some space. When you give them some space and time to think, sometimes they realize what they are losing and will want to come back. You can't force him to come back to you or talk to you. Work on yourself and healing yourself and get over some of the decisions you've made in the marriage. In time, give him a sincere apology for the things you did that were wrong and he may want to return. Just be prepared in case he does not want to come back.

You need to work on making yourself happy first before you can fix this relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, he was your first love. 2b has given you the right advice. If he were to come back, go right to counseling.
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