Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I have spent the last three months bgging, and trying to convince him that this is salvageable.
I have said everything under the moon that could CONVINCE him there is a chance. Basically telling him what he SHOULD think or feel. Part of the reason he left was because I have been too controlling.
He will have to come up with this on his own. I realize he may never but me telling him what I think he should think or do is not going to help that.
I have said everything under the moon that could CONVINCE him there is a chance. Basically telling him what he SHOULD think or feel. Part of the reason he left was because I have been too controlling.
He will have to come up with this on his own. I realize he may never but me telling him what I think he should think or do is not going to help that.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I feel so much better and more at peace since I realized that.
You'll get through this, it sounds like you're moving in the right direction.
you said that the reason he left was that you were too controlling. I would contend that is the reason he is running away.
Take the wind out of his sails and tell him that "you understand him now, and this may be the best thing for us right now"
that should throw him into a a different mental state all together.
In the mean time start working on yourself, change you hair style, go out and buy clothes that you wouldn normally wear, workout and eat a healthy lifestyle.
This time is about you - and before long he will notice a change in you that he nay find attractive, if not other men will begin to notice you. And that might eat him up as well. begin to make a habit of not calling him only in case of emergency, and don't answer the phone when he calls you -let him leave a message and get back to him when you feel it is important.
Talking with/to someone is a BIG difference than talking AT someone.
Do, validate YOUR feelings, concerns, etc. to him & let HIM validate his feelings, concerns, etc. to you. One thing we ALL tend to do is to interupt the S/O when they are talking. Let them finish saying what they feel, need, want to say. Then, if you do NOT understand something he/she said, tell them that you didn't quite understand it & ASK them if they would say it again, possibly in another way so you could understand it better. Sometimes, people have a hard time explaining/understanding things. That is OK.... It is NORMAL. Just takes A LOT of communication, understanding, compassion, consideration....
There is only ONE person that you can control & that is YOU!~!
I hope this helps.
"Keep Your Chin Up!~!" I'm here if you need to talk