Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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My parents got divorced after 34 years of marriage and I did alot of reading on the topic at that time.
Apparently it is quite common for men of my dad vintage ( 50 something) to say in a unhappy marriage for years until he finds someone to go to ( hence it always looks like men have affairs) where as the women of the same vintage ( 50 something) will simply be unhappy and leave on her own. She won't wait to have an affair to find someone to go to.
So my Dad's advice was, so long as things are going okay in the bedroom, you should not have to worry too much about divorce.
So in my marriage, things were great in the bedroom, ( I admit I wanted it more frequently than him 7 times a week, he wanted it twice a week , so we settled on 2-4 times a week_). Even up to 4 days before my unexpected exodus... things were great..
so folks tell me,,,, was Dad wrong? I want to hear both sides of the story......
PS I am not near 50 but figure there must be some truth.. .as I read it in many marriage bust up books back them. I personally can't stomach and divorce reason books now... it won't change the fact I am getting a divorce ( whether I want one or not)....
Apparently it is quite common for men of my dad vintage ( 50 something) to say in a unhappy marriage for years until he finds someone to go to ( hence it always looks like men have affairs) where as the women of the same vintage ( 50 something) will simply be unhappy and leave on her own. She won't wait to have an affair to find someone to go to.
So my Dad's advice was, so long as things are going okay in the bedroom, you should not have to worry too much about divorce.
So in my marriage, things were great in the bedroom, ( I admit I wanted it more frequently than him 7 times a week, he wanted it twice a week , so we settled on 2-4 times a week_). Even up to 4 days before my unexpected exodus... things were great..
so folks tell me,,,, was Dad wrong? I want to hear both sides of the story......
PS I am not near 50 but figure there must be some truth.. .as I read it in many marriage bust up books back them. I personally can't stomach and divorce reason books now... it won't change the fact I am getting a divorce ( whether I want one or not)....
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
Can we just clone Mike? Can someone call MIT and have them get on that.
I'd also like to clone dad1956 and BCw3 and all the other generous sensitive men on this group.
I think I am getting sassy like a music teacher I know...
I do agree with Mike though. Romance keeps the marriage alive. I do think there is something to the age thing though. Mine is 42, and hello midlife crisis! Problem is, once they cheat, you can never go back. My dad has told me he knows a lot of men who have that mid life crisis thing in mid 40's to early 50's.
What, I don't get a clone?
This makes me think of the movie "Multiplicity."