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I WANT TO GO HOME MORE THEN EVER

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i had a minor meltdown today after work . I talked to my mom on the phone briefly and she said I love you to me and i hung up and i cried. i hate what my stbx is doing to me . he is concerned about gas prices (in re:to p/u and drop off of children) if i move a lousy f'n 20-30 minutes away with my mom in another town. i am appauled and i want to go home there more than ever. if i stay here in any ol apartment or in the house, whereever, he will want joint 50/50 custody. my attorney said not to agree to that. any experiences with it? Anyway i do want to go home more than ever. i will have my family , and make new friends and be closer to my best friend.

any input?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Then move!!! Michigan law states you can't move over 100 miles, and if you do visitation is still a priority. My aunt has to drive her boy 150 miles and pick him up twice a month even though she hasn't received child support since spring. He can't hold that against you.
deleted_user
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Don't allow him to control what you feel or do. It is your life now. Do what makes you happy. If moving will make you happy, then tell him he is a selfish ass, and move.

And if his only concern is gas prices, also tell him how shallow he is. :)
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Ask the court for permission to move. Since it's only 20-30 minutes, I can't imagine the judge not allowing that. Find out about your state laws. Do you have a lawyer? If you do, talk to him/her about it.
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honey, go home, pack up and go. your only going 20-30 minutes away, he can come and visit his children. if you know in your heart and soul, you'll be better off and so will your children. go. i'm back with my adult children after being away 8 years. i'm heartbroken, but i'm with the people that love me the most. my family and long time friends. tuck your fear away and do it.
campyone
campyone
I feel I must reply here. I too am going thru this very thing. I have a 14 yr old son who started HS this year been here since 1st grade. X has decided to sell home expecets me to live in an apt, yeah right I have 2 dogs 2 cats and a teenager they don't rent places like that here with out it costing an arm & a leg which is not feasible, so I am thinking of moving where my support is which is 50 miles an hundreds of dollars cheaper , I am so torn son says he will go where I go but doesn't really want to leave, I feel so guilty and scared of this situation, I am question my own judgement which I know in my heart was right....Sorry for the long post but this hits so close to home, I think I'll go cry now..
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