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deleted_user 10/27/2007

I have never shedso many tears as I have these past couple of months. Feeling depression, anxiety, lonliness, sadness, and so many more feelings. I just want to be happy again. The pain is still here and doesn't seem to be going away. I have been so emotional this week. I am training with another person and I said something wrong that made this person yell at me. I was puzzled and felt so little. I felt like I can't do anything right. I looked away as this person was yelling bc I felt like I was going to break down and cry again. This isn't normal maybe I need help or something. I can't take anymore pressure bc I fear for the worse. I am getting closer to the end of my ropes. I can't do anything right. Hell I can't make love work for me. Why am I so emotional? If this happened earlier in my life I would have strugged off that person and went on. I hope I am not damaged emotionally in some way. I want to be a man that can take alot of shit like I use too. Not the mouse that I am today!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I know how you feel, I walked around my house watering plants and that was such a huge chore. weekends are so hard. I go to therapy once a wk - have you thought of therapy. It hurts but also helps.

CanadianRose 10/27/2007

Allen.. time for some professional help.

I was in a daze.. I was an emotional wreck for two years.. i did not know it at the time but I was severely depressed is what the doctors found.

Yes, I had to take meds.. only for @4 months.. but I regained my sense of wellness.. came out of the fog... had clarity again in my daily life.. and I was me again... I was actually.. well... not happy.. but.. I was not sad anymore..

Yes.. not sad in the morning when I woke up.. it was a big step... still not happy.. but man.. not on the drugs for a year now.. but I needed them then.. needed to have the fog lift.

go see your doctor please...please. (((HUGS))))

and it has nothing to do with being a strong man.. the emotion.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

your not emotionally damaged, your going through an emtional crisis. and your not a mouse either. and i have a question, how does one make love work? love comes from the heart and soul. just from ds, your a very loving caring person, stop beating yourself up. hang in there.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I agree with C.rose! Counseling and meds are helping me survive this Hell we're all in!

You emotional damage will not be permanent as long as you work on recovering. I tell you it is WORK, hard WORK. Frustrating and confusing too!

I'm not a man, but I am normally a very strong and stable woman. I detest crying uncontrollably. But, I must learn to accept that doing so releases the pain just a bit.

Best wishes for getting the help you need!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

The last time I got professional help before the marriage fell the man told me that my marriage was over. I was a wreck when I went home and my wife asked me what happened. I told her that our marriage was over. She said it wasn't and I shouldn't listen to him. Well he was sort of right. I think anyways.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

STRESS makes me wanna rip my hair out somedays and makes me feel like I'm just not mself anymore too.

Get that help everyone is talking about.Every bit of help makes it easier to cope with and feel less like you're lossing it.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Chrurop- I just see it how I screw everything up. Nothing goes right and I am thinking maybe I am to blame.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I'll tell you what my attorney told me. "Get yourself a counselor. And don't settle if that counselor is NOT helping you. Get another and another until you find the right fit." My attorney is also an RN as is his wife and partner. I trust them 100%.

Did you have only ONE visit with a counselor and he told you your marriage could not be saved? That sounds very suspect to me. It would seem that he would need to see you over many visits and your wife also.

Find a new counselor!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I know how you feel. I was a complete mess myself! I broke down, cried, wanted to die, all the negative emotions everyone here has gone through. It doesn't make me less a man though and it doesn't say anything about what kind of man you are either.

In fact you were a devoted, loving "Family Man" like myself who ws robbed of his family and now you are hurting.

Hang in there, it does get better and you will get stronger. You deserve to be treated better.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

31 years- I went to this conselor twice and the first time is when he told me it's over.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

First of all that was a horrible counselor if they would tell you such a thing. Find a new one. That may have helped you unknowingly sabotage your marriage. I don't know what your particular situation is, but I do know that time does help. Go ahead and try the meds, if they work, great. If not, nothing lost. Good luck.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

oh, geez, you should've seen me the last 24 hours, what a walking mess! i am a true beleiver in that the pain we feel in divorce/break-up has a very universal nature and content -- even tho i continue to be astounded that so many others express that they are feeling the exact saem things that I am. I was flat-out losing it all night last night -- nightmares wehn i finally fell asleep -- and I am known as a strong person generally. You are experiencing very universal kinds of things, i am certainly no expert on getting thru it, but i sure know it when i see it -- you sound liek a real human being to me and I like you!

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