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I want a fix, she doesn't

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I'm a thirty year old man married to the woman of my dreams for almost 8 years. Two beautiful children, house, dogs the usual scenario. After my wife took a trip with her sister and mother to visit family in another state I noticed changes in her behavior. I asked about them how she felt, and if there was another man. But she won't talk she won't give me anything to go on. I don't know what to fix if I don't know whats wrong. I do know when she was away she met another man, and I truly believe there was no physical infidelity, but I know for sure she became emotionally attached. I think that may be worse. I love her more than anything and I want to make things right. I guess I just need someone to talk to about it I really don't have anyone else.
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you know sometimes i wonder, if it's just something new, perhaps the attention, that feeling you gave her long ago. i'm no expert, but back away and give her some time before you start thinking things are wrong. or think back to the beginning and repeat some of those goofy romantic things and see if it changes anything. good luck
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My stbx starting acting very strangely too but we had had some major things go on in our lives. Like all the other years, I thought it would pass and I tried to talk to him about it. My closest friends tried to convince me he was cheating because of the behavior, but we had been married for 13 years and I knew he had some oddities about the way he did things anyway, which they didn't know. I asked him if he was cheating and talked about his questionable behavior. He denied cheating and agreed that his behavior was questionable and he was sorry. He explained himself and due to his personality traits, it made sense to me. Then he began to act even stranger and couldn't explain things like he used to be able to...and that was a clue that I think he may have been going through depression or something like that. He refused to believe he had a problem and thought we were all crazy for even questioning his behavior. Well, several months later, and with no improvement, I finally realized that I didn't deserve to be neglected as a wife anymore and we agreed to split
up. He had been talking about it for some time. Now, I'm not suggesting you give up, just be compassionate with your wife about whatever is going on with her. Only you and she can get to the bottom of that. Be as open and understanding as you can and see where it goes.
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