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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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deleted_user 10/27/2007

He changed.... I stuck by his side for 7 years....After he got his 2nd degree, his business became successful, he developed new aquaintances/associations/friendships,and he learned how to be a father to his son, he no longer needed me. He is now surrounded by younger,single women hitting on him (I was older than he was) I guess I was only useful when his life was crap and he was down (he must have only needed a mother for a short time) Silly me, thinking supporting him (not just financially, but emotionally too) would mean a successful,happy future for both of us. I went into this marriage with all my heart (I was a single mom for 13 years, so it wasn't an impulsive thing) Instead I found myself cast off like a used tissue having outlived my usefulness to him (he now has better options open to him). I had faith in our marriage and him (I wouldn't have attempted a second marrige with a step-child if I didn't) and when he left me...well,I've lost my faith in relationships and trust in men.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

(((Hugs)))

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Hoping you can take this in the manner its intended.... There was smoke in that last breath I inhaled, so I better not breathe anymore. Doesn't really make sense, does it? Look, what you've really lost is trust in your own instincts right now. Over time, that will come back. Promise.

CanadianRose 10/27/2007

I hear you Rose...I do... perhaps it is too early for us.

I don't think I can ever love or trust again.

(((HUGS))) from the other Rose

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Trust?...Me too!
Don't respect Divorced women anymore either.

Does it sound the same when a man says it?

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I feel the exact same way. In my mind I no longer think I will ever be able to trust and have faith in another woman. I don't think they are necessarily bad, but I trust them to do whatever is right for them regardless of how it effects me.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

me too, Early or not, I'm really going to havea hard time moving on. Your situation was very similiar to mine, except no kids. Cast away like a used life raft. That's all he wanted me for. to float along during his second guessing. I had such faith he wouldn't turn around and stop loving me. And now he did and he's happy as ever, not one thought of missing me. What did I do to make him so unhappy? Why couldn't he be happy with me? Why does love die so? It hurts to imagine you can put your all into something and it just doesn't make a difference. Why try anymore?

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Me too. But I'm TRUSTING that I'll regain it. I'm just so lucky that he left me before I lost my trust in mankind, not just men!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I'm sorry, salbert. I know it's hard. I feel your pain! If I had a magic wand, I would take EVERYONE's pain here at DS away & we could just move on. However, as lovely as that may seem, that can't be done. What you are feeling is "normal." You put & gave EVERYTHING you had into this marriage & he walked away from not only the marriage, but from YOU. YOU deserve every right to feel this way.

I know you don't think that you will ever be able to trust again. I didn't after I divorced my kids' dad either. (I didn't get married for 6 years after we divorce). Didn't date until 2 years before I remarried. I did NOT trust a man. I wanted nothing to do with a man. This is all part of the healing process. You will get there one day.... One minute, hour, day at a time. It's all part of the "healing process." I know, it SUCKS!~! "KEEP YOUR CHIN UP!~!" I'm praying for you!~!

LarryLDN 10/27/2007

I just lost trust in ONE person, maybe two. Everyone else gets the same trust... until proven otherwise unworthy

deleted_user 10/27/2007

DS has really helped me kick the anger towards all women. I see caring women here who hurt like me and hopefully y'all can see caring men who too have had their trust broken. There are lots and lots of good people out there and with time, I feel our trust will return.

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