I know, it's hard at first to even let others know what's going on, maybe we're still trying to protect the marriage. But it does seem that once we let it out, the healing and help is free to come in. I'm so glad you're coping well. Hugs.....

"the truth will set you free" the more I opened up around people the more I understand that I am not the only one out there going thru this process

It's a big first step to do such a thing. I know it may feel embarassing, but it will prove to be very beneficial in the end. You ARE following your own path and it's the only one that will know which road to follow. Congratulations!

Yes, sitting at home and keeping everything to yourself is not healthy and doesn't help you work through it at all, besides most people are really supportive, so its a double bonus.

I just always think people will be sick of hearing about it, hehe, but my best friends have gone through it and understand, so that helps somewhat.

For the first 4 months I completely lost the filter between my modesty and my mouth. I blurted out things to my yoga teacher, my hygenist, to clerks, to neighbors, to people I barely knew.

I've always been very private, so this was upsetting to. But I found that most people responded with real empathy. Many opened up and shared a little of their own experiences, which made me feel connected; I wasn't the only one who had ever been through this, my story wasn't even unusual.

And by saying out loud "I'm getting a divorce," it helped me accept it.

#5...YES...the more I say the words the more "real" it becomes...and I know now that I am ready for "real"

I wanted to keep it secret. I was so upset and embarrassed. But I didn't keep quiet and I think that has made all the difference. Couldn't have done it without the help of my friends and family, and DS of course!

It was so hard telling my children's school. And then it was so strange how calmly they took it. I guess on some level I expected them to be as upset as I was. Yes, it was very freeing.

I am also someone who was embarrassed to let the news out about the divorce when it first happened - since then , i have had so many wonderful people respond to me in ways that are so different! As recently as yesterday, sopme people I ahve a business relationship wiht (2 of them) had a meeting with me and during the course of the meeting they shared their divorce "wisdom" and I just feel like I know them now as real human beings, it was all good!

I too was amazed at the response people gave me. I learned a lot about old family secrets that I was protected from as a child.

Trying to get business stuff figured out was less of a problem, when I added that I was having difficulty because I was in the process of divorce. Just said it straight out and was amazed by the response and care of the person on the other end of what is usually a cold response to problems.