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I think I wasted many years of my life being married to a narcissist. Have any of you had that experience and how do you extradite yourself from the awful experience.
The manipulations and head trips and lies these folks can do are truly appalling. Im trying to find my way back to my center. Its been very difficult and Im experiencing quite a lot of feelings of low self-esteem and depression.
Anyone out there who was married to a narcissist, please speak up.
The manipulations and head trips and lies these folks can do are truly appalling. Im trying to find my way back to my center. Its been very difficult and Im experiencing quite a lot of feelings of low self-esteem and depression.
Anyone out there who was married to a narcissist, please speak up.
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I'll let you in on a secret. Once you do some reading about NPD you should be able to figure out how to control him. All you need to do is feed his narcissism. He will automatically think better of you because you become a narcissitic supply for him. The reason he is putting you off right now is because you starting calling him out on his lies.
Narcissists live in their own reality. They don't actually show you their true self because it is so deeply buried inside they don't know how. They are unlikely to be helped by treatment.
Do what I do. I just feel sorry for my wife. She'll never be happy.
I initiated this same topic about 10 days ago - here is the thread if you want to read more about experiences from folks in this community.
http://dailystrength.org/component/option,com_joomlaboard/Itemid,53/func,view/id,386537/catid,720
I don't know how this can happen but I start becoming angry at myself how I let someone control and emotionally abuse me for so long. I've a level of depression where I'm actually thinking what is the use -- I just don't have the energy to fight it anymore.
I know it is not that what I want to do. I have three wonderful daughters and 2 beautiful grandsons and 2 more on the way, but I'm feeling so low that today I'm still in my pj's and can't seem to shake the bad feelings.
I want to get past this feeling and normal again, but right now I feel I'm in a hole trying to dig myself out of it. I hope this too shall pass. I'm not so sure right now.
So now my question is how does one avoid attracting these awful people in your life. I never want to see someone like my stbx in my life again. I am far from wanting to be with the opposite sex but one day I will.
Those of you who have experience with these pariahs -- have you avoided them? Nothing is their fault. They never apologize. Everything is somehow someone's else's fault. They are boring, selfish, have absolutely no compassion or empathy and are just plain awful human beings.
By the way he was an only child and I was the oldest of 8 children.
I'm seeing a counselor for the main purpose of learning how to cope with the terror my wife brings to me when she goes into one of her brow-beating sessions. It can put me down for a day or so too.
Strange as it may seem, I'm trying to figure out when it's ok to hangup the telephone or not let her in. It feels like either I'm being unreasonable (according to my wife) or guilty of something. A counselor can maybe help me to reach a comfortable spot in there. I'm not quite there yet.