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I surprised myself

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I have been avoiding calling the ex or texting. I knew that calling would turn me to tears. He has now gone back home, so the distance is good and safe. Last night and this morning I see he is on the poker site I play on. I of course watched the table he was at (couldn't resist). He starts to make comments and again my decision was validated as he always got so upset and it's just a game so if u r not having fun why play? He has told me he is working but then this morning he seemed to be registered for the days tournaments. Crack addicts lie to others as well as themselves. This morning again solidified my decision in my mind and heart. The pain is still there but this was a good experience to validate my choices. Life will get better and I am getting stronger everyday!!!
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My x had gambing and womenizing probems....it is a painful experience and it made me crazy trying to "fix" his addiction...just let go do not watch the card sites....Alanon helps even if drugs and alcohol were not his problem addict is universal...

KIM
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I had a recent "AH HA" moment which too validates the need to move on. My stbx and his OW, that is reason enough but the hurt continues until those little flashes of light you see and saying "this is why I have to move on"...they do feel good in a weird sorta way. Life will get better and yes, you will definitely get stronger everyday! HUGS!!
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Addicts are so disappointing. The hardest thing is having to let go of the idea of what he/she was suppose to give you in the marriage but failed miserably. I'm suffering to with letting go of a fantasy of a marriage I never really had. Support groups are great places to process this.
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