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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I need your strength today. My husband has moved some of the furniture out of the home today to his new condo. I went to the movies so I didn't have to be here to witness it. When I came home I felt an overwelming sense of sorrow. My husband and I have had some amaziong SOBER heart to hearts over the last 2 days. Our daughter wrote him a letter that he read and was the eye opener he needed to realize the pain he is causing everyone around him. He has admitted to having a problem with alcohol and is going to seek the help that he needs. He let me know that he will be home as this is where his heart and sole are, but he needs to be healthier as a husband and father before he comes home. He let his mother, children, myself and my cousin know this as well. I know it was the complete honest truth as he would NEVER lie to his mother about seeking help and then coming back to his family. He has always been very blunt and honest with her even if he knew he was hurting her. He has also been talking to a bar "skank" for the past few weeks. He has made a promise to me, his children and most importantly himself that he is going to call her and cut the friendship. As she is an alcoholic and has been showing quite a bit of psycho tendicies. I need to know how I can make it through this transition and give me the patience to have him get the help he needs without me completly losing myself at the same time. We have literally spent 4 night away form each other in the past 13 years. I am going to share the letter with everyone on here at DS for 1 main reason. If you are an alcoholic and have children I want people to see and realize the pain they cause the people around them.
Dad,
I don't like how you have been going to the bar a lot. I also don't like how much beer you drink because you are slowly killing yourself. I don't want that to happen at all. Like last night you went to the bar and you were all dressed up. So I was thinking that girl most likely will be there and you don't normally dress up. So I thought you and Michelle were going on a date. You are sneaking around with her. Its like you are cheating on mom, but also on us, (me and Raven) I feel like you love her more than me. Also that you would rather be with her than your own child. So I am really confused right now. The questions that are going through my head is what did we do to upset you? What did we do wrong? Do we deserve this? Does he even care about me? Why is dad doing this to us? Are we that bad? Those are the things I think about.
Destiny
Notice there was no "love" Destiny!
Dad,
I don't like how you have been going to the bar a lot. I also don't like how much beer you drink because you are slowly killing yourself. I don't want that to happen at all. Like last night you went to the bar and you were all dressed up. So I was thinking that girl most likely will be there and you don't normally dress up. So I thought you and Michelle were going on a date. You are sneaking around with her. Its like you are cheating on mom, but also on us, (me and Raven) I feel like you love her more than me. Also that you would rather be with her than your own child. So I am really confused right now. The questions that are going through my head is what did we do to upset you? What did we do wrong? Do we deserve this? Does he even care about me? Why is dad doing this to us? Are we that bad? Those are the things I think about.
Destiny
Notice there was no "love" Destiny!
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What is he giving up? He is losing his family and his life. EVerytime you drink to the extent he does he is slowly killing himself. And our daughter was not manipulating him she was sharing feelings that she had bottled up for the past 6 weeks.
I applaud you for your willingness to be there for him, good or bad, and I am here when you need support.
Bravo Destiny.
((Hugs)) Tammi
I suspect he is sowing some wild oats. Do not wait for him or focus on him; focus on moving forward with your kids. If he is willing, he will catch up.
May God bless and keep you and your children in these painful days.