Hell if we did not have a son together I would be SO outta here. I would move so fast it would make his head spin. I would love to go somewhere where I never had to see him again.

When I realized my life would never be the same heading for a new state sounded pretty good. After weighing the pros and cons I found that I might be making the situation worse for myself. I tend to cling to hope of a better day for strength. Good luck in making your choice. One good thing, this will be YOUR choice.

That totally depends on you. If you are a person who likes adventure, go for it!

I, personally, would not move because everyone I love is here. I have never been fond of this area but I could never leave my friends, my son or my in-laws (with whom I'm very close). I would feel very isolated in a new city without my friends around me.

No matter what you decide to do, now may not be the best time to make that decision. it should be a plan not a reflex. i too would move if my son was more agreeable to it. In time it may happen. i feel that would be the best for me to start fresh and not have to worry about hearing anything or seeing anything. if you don't have any children and don't need ALOT of support right now (i do unfortunately-but getting better) maybe you should consider it. Maybe a smaller move for now followed by some plans for a GIANT STEP later. It is good to be thinking of yourself right now. Good Luck,

I tried to add my reply, but it got lost. Anyway, I'll try again with the abbreviated version. I don't have any answers, but do see three, maybe four issues you are dealing with. 1. Finding the best place to live. 2. Finding the best place to work (find a job you like). 3. Making fresh start with no baggage vs relying on and using what you have now. 4. Getting away from all the familiar things that remind you of him.

In my experience, I couldn't do number 4. I brought with me all the baggage where ever I went. So what I did instead was get out with old friends and made new friends. I felt worst when I was alone and thinking about my spouse. So I made an effort to get out and then got professional help.

And by professional help I mean both psychological and legal. The former was most helpful.

Your joining this group is a good start. There are other support groups out there such as the Meetup Divorce Support Group in Philly and other cities.

I think that depends on how you would feel in a different place. I could never do that because my church and family is here and those are two things I don't ever want to leave. If you live in an itty bitty town though, maybe its best to move on because it makes it harder then. But it all rests on what you think is best because you are the one who has to live with that decision. Good luck!

I can only tell you what I feel is right for me. I am moving... I too am starting over, so I felt I needed all the support I could get. So... I am moving back home near family and friends. My s2bx is in the military, we were stationed here... so it was an easy decision to me. I have no real ties here, not to mention it is kind of like leaving heart break behind...

I'm moving 500 miles away on Feb 8th. It's not so much running away as running toward a better life. Atlanta is where the new job is and I like getting away from Florida because this flat terrain is boring. I really don't know a soul there but I'll make friends, join a church, go to clubs, take courses and otherwise lead a healthy active life. My x needs to be by herself for a while to appreciate what she is losing, especially since her lover just dumped her and there will be no wedding like she planned. Maybe she'll change and come to me in the not-so-distant future but I'm not waiting around like a sucker.

Sometimes a new start can be a good thing. I wanted to move last year, but my 16 yr old threw a fit, saying she had to graduate high school here. Now she wants to move to start over, easier said then done.Houses are not selling in my area. I have been researching the area I want to move to. I feel like I'm being pulled to this specific city for a reason. A friend at bible study said I should look for a sign, but I feel so sure about this city. I was worried about leaving the church that I love here. I went on-line to research churches in the area that I want to move to and I found out that the pastor for the childrens ministry here in my area, moved away a few years ago to start a church in the area I want to go to! As soon as I read this, I cried so hard I didn't think I would stop. I believe everything happens for a reason and we all need a do-over!