We all know what you mean. Give yourself time, you will have up and down days for some time. It is normal. Come her to vent.

I know what you mean. It gets better I promise. I've had a really rough couple of weeks but I'm feeling really good and positive today. You will have that too soon.

I go through periods when I feel fine then I feel bad again. I guess it is the rollercoaster of emotions. Betrayal really sucks and I dont know how to tell you to get past it but you have to face it. Be strong and let yourself heal. You have to go through this to make it to the other side. Good luck

The good thing about the up and down cycle is that the good periods keep getting longer and the bad periods shorter. But it is a slow process. Hang in there!

I'm with you girl - and I can honestly tell you that it does start to fade as time goes by. Meds helped a bit - so did sitting with my family, and friends. And talking to people here, it helped to settle my stomach and ease my heart. The thoughts of being betrayed will take a little longer - but when the anger sets in - that helped me A LOT! Keep strong and here are some hugs and love!

I totally thought I was entering the angry state yesterday. I wonder if it will help if he admits there is the OW? I hate being lied to.

Saddy it takes some time to get through this. I was left on April 17th and I am still dealing with the fall out from all of this divorce mess that I have been dragged into. It gets better but everyone has their own different clock.

The stages go back and forth-WE all have those days believe me.You will get through-we all ahve.

(((Hugs))) Some days are just Crap Days :-( We are Here.

I'm with you saddy. The constant rollercoaster is breaking me down. It's rough.

I found out about my now x husband's affair a year and a half ago. I am over him..way over him but I am not over the betrayal. I don't think that I will ever be over the betrayal..it cuts to the very core of everything I once believed to be true. I am now into the hate stage..Hate because of his complete lack of integrity and concern for his children's well being.

I know what you mean. It is the rollercoaster ride. You are having a bad time. It won't be long 'toll you feel a little better again. Allow yourself the grief and despair, don't block it. My therapist says that helps heal faster.

Hi Saddy, I truly feel your pain, as I sit here writing, my stomach is in knots, and I feel the tears welling up. Some days I think that it will be ok, and the next I am back in doom and gloom. Just knw that you are not alone at all.

I know exactly what you mean. My ex and I seperated in 2005, and my emotions were all over the map. We finally entered into a divorce settlement two weeks ago. I thought I would be able to handle it, since we've been seperated for over 2 years, but I couldn't. My emotions again went all over the map, and it wasn't until this past Saturday that I was able to put a "good" smiley face on my profile, but that can easily change as the days go by. I realize that this a process and have come to accept that there will be ups and downs. I myself just joined this community about a week ago, and this community a proven to be an excellent place for me to vent and sort out my feelings.

The betrayal is the worse part to get past. I still feel sick every time I think of my husband with that tramp. My stbx still won't admit what he's done, and my attorney has made it very clear that we know what he's been up to. Hope you have a better tomorrow.