I have been married to a wonderful, kind man for 24 years. Here is the situation for the past several years: He suffers from childhood anxiety and is on medication for the past several years. He has become a different person since being on it. The dr. and my husband are in agreement that the medication is not the problem. He has gone from a caring person to a person with no emotions. Lately, I argue all the time about this and he insists it is not the medication. He wants the marriage to work but will never ever take the initiative to talk. I am the one who always has to iniate our long \"talks\" He avoids me, talks to me as little as he can, and then claims he loves me but not like he use to and he still wants to be married but it isn\'t working and does not mind if i live somewhere else for awhile because he wants to be alone or have a break from me. I have cried over and over and recently learned that he thought I was playing a game or faking it. I am beside myself. I have an excellent relationship with many of his family members. I do remind him of his mother by being a person who likes control of things. I was the person who connected him back with his family over 20 years ago when he was disconnected. His sister takes advantage of him and he doesn\'t get angry but I do everything (including verbalizing my feelings) and he resents me. I need advise and opinions. Counseling will take too long- Friends are working better for me. He is in therapy and the therapist feels that he will act the very same on another anti-anxiety medication. I disagree. Advise? Pleeeeease
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