Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Went to court and found out stbx had our oldest evaluated by two physchologist and their determination is the children need to stay in one parents home. Stbx defense on this was the children come back angry upset hitting and many more false statements. My son has excelled in school and continue to improve with the check plus denotes. For my son goes everyday to school and I get reports daily from teacher he is in good spirits and continues to improve and has not been adversley affected by this horrible divorce. For I have not even been interviewed by this Doctor for the Judge was told by my attorney for we have shared parenting and it had not been discussed with me prior to an evaluation. I do not mind evaluations at all but lets be fair I feel for this was an impartial diagnose from Doctor. I am sure my sons are affected for they only want mom and Dad back together. I need reasoning because if my sons are doing exceptional in school would this not be a reflection on how they are being treated at home as to structure. My point I need to vent for it is a continued battle for all I want to be with my sons just as much as stbx.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Is your son receiving weekly services by the psycholigist or just had an evaluation?
Still waters run deep. Divorce is a very difficult concept for young minds to wrap around. Think of the difficulties we even has as adults trying to understand it all! As an elementary school teacher i have seen much too much.
In many cases, children continue to excell (thank God!) in their schoolwork and activities. Children place pressure on themselves in regards to the confusion in their home life. This leaves them with a feeling that they NEED to be good in every way as they often blame themselves for the break up of the family structure. Because their school work has NOT suffered does NOT mean that they are not exhibiting other feelings or behaviors of anger. Consistency is so important for children. They thrive on routine and structure and feel empowered when they know what to expect in terms of routines and consequences for behavior.
Im not exactly sure how your state school system deals with this situation as it varies. I would suggest staying in contact if possible with the school psychologist if your son is receiving weekly services.
As difficult as it may be stay in touch with your children and their mother and make your care and concern known. best of luck...