First off, I want to admit to my contribution to our situation. We've been married for 7 years, the last 5 going down hill. I knew something was missing from our marriage, but did not turn to my wife. I turned to internet porn, other women, motorcycles...almost anything I could get excited about. We have been separated for 7 weeks now, the first 4 I feel apart. I tried to stay at the house until bed time, tried convincing her to take me back, tried convincing her that I had changed (even though my actions were saying differently), I tried to lay the blame of my choices on her. She had been asking for space up until that point, at which she said that, right now, she feels like she needs a divorce to get closure on our past. I backed off and gave her some space, for about a week. I also turned my focus to my own issues and started identifying and correcting my bad thinking. After a week, we seemed to be getting along better and I began to come around a little more. I have been trying to be accepting of her, and this is a good place to mention that she isn't seeing anyone, not a shred of evidence of that. I have been up front with my faith that we will be able to rebuild our marriage in time. This morning, she said that my actions and faith, appear to her that I indeed don't listen to her and care about how she feels. I replied that I did hear her and care very much how she feels. If she needs the divorce, it will be civil but I do not want to divorce. Can anyone give me an outside opinion?
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